[JEC]

I couldn't agree with Dr. Bakersville more. If you have young children the family courts almost always sides with the mother. I was practically criminalized, demonized, discriminated against by the courts and lost everything except my own self-respect. Only when they get older does the courts give you anywhere near a fair shake. I paid well over six figures in 16 years and honestly as financially insecure as I am today, it was well worth it. In the beginniing, she wound up married in a nice house in an upper middle class neighborhood with all the amenities that go along with it. Her and Mr. Wonderful did nothing to encourage any type of wholesome relationship between myself and my daughters and made sure that I would not have any type of relationship with them.

I wound up in a lousy basement apartment bearly living from pay check to pay check. After all of these years my ex is divorced from Mr. Wonderful, living in a two bedroom apartment, two daughters that only see her on holidays and a family that shows her nothing but pity. She might have plenty of money, she also has a number of demons in her head (I've spoken with her a couple of times since my daughters were emancipated).

After living under crappy conditions, my wife and I moved to Arizona for awhile and finally wound up here in North Carolina. My wife, God bless her, stayed with me all these years. We have a nice house, an RV to travel around with and a bunch of furry children(5 dogs) that have treated me with more unconditional love then my own daughters ever will.

Do I regret having children, NO. Would I encourage anyone to have children, again, NO. Would I encourage anyone to get married, YES.

[RogerFGay]

Congratulations on finding the love of a good woman. I’m sure nothing would make you want to part with her - I think however, that the message, even for you is one about how bad the government intrusion has become. Statistically, it’s a hit or miss proposition, with at least as many men who will face ruin as a result of taking a chance as not. And there is no logical reason for making it so - it’s just the result of corruption.