“Expressing a dislike of someone in less than polite ways might be boorish, rude, uncouth, immpolite, bad manners etc., but not hate. I am guilty of all of those things, but not hate,”
Not sure Mr. Webster (or in this case dictionary.com) would agree with you.
1. to dislike intensely or passionately; feel extreme aversion for or extreme hostility toward; detest: to hate the enemy; to hate bigotry.
http://www.memidex.com/hate+emotion
hate (emotion)
Definition:the emotion of intense dislike; a feeling of dislike so strong that it demands action
It is the same as trying to convince someone I am not racist. Mo matter how much truth was on my side, if the listener thought I was racist nothing will change his mind.