What you wrote can’t be said too often.
I hope you don’t mind, I took the liberty of re-formatting your post a bit, because the song is a powerful message and it was a bit difficult to read the way it posted...
Yes, it is NOT worth chasing the dollar to have someone else “raise” your children. What’s the point of having them? Buy yourself a new toy - instead! Don’t have kids if you can’t RAISE THEM YOURSELF. Stop being SELFISH and SELF ABSORBED and NARCISSISTIC. A child wants YOU; not things. It is your TIME that is priceless and it is QUANITY of time not this B.S. “quality” time. Kids don’t schedule their EMOTIONAL needs to FIT your royal schedule. They only grow up once and YOU had better be there! If not, YOU will regret it.
Cats In The Cradle By Harry Chapin
A child arrived just the other day
He came to the world in the usual way
But there were planes to catch and bills to pay
He learned to walk while I was away
And he was talkin’ ‘fore I knew it, and as he grew
He’d say “I’m gonna be like you dad
You know I’m gonna be like you”
And the cat’s in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin’ home dad? I don’t know when, but we’ll get together then son
You know we’ll have a good time then
My son turned ten just the other day
He said, “Thanks for the ball, Dad, come on let’s play
Can you teach me to throw”, I said “Not today
I got a lot to do”, he said, “That’s ok”
And he walked away but his smile never dimmed
And said, “I’m gonna be like him, yeah
You know I’m gonna be like him”
And the cat’s in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin’ home dad? I don’t know when, but we’ll get together then son
You know we’ll have a good time then
Well, he came home from college just the other day
So much like a man I just had to say
“Son, I’m proud of you, can you sit for a while?”
He shook his head and said with a smile
“What I’d really like, Dad, is to borrow the car keys
See you later, can I have them please?”
And the cat’s in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin’ home son? I don’t know when, but we’ll get together then dad,
You know we’ll have a good time then
I’ve long since retired, my son’s moved away
I called him up just the other day
I said, “I’d like to see you if you don’t mind”
He said, “I’d love to, Dad, if I can find the time
You see my new job’s a hassle and kids have the flu
But it’s sure nice talking to you, Dad
It’s been sure nice talking to you”
And as I hung up the phone it occurred to me
He’d grown up just like me
My boy was just like me
And the cat’s in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man on the moon
When you comin’ home son? I don’t know when, but we’ll get together then dad
You know we’ll have a good time then
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-s5r2spPJ8g
With hell care coming, parents’ you’ll WISH you had a relationship with your children. When you NEGLECT them, they will NEGLECT you in turn. YOU trained them to be this way through your own actions of NEGLECT. So BLAME YOURSELF.
A family I know adopted two children from China, their only children. Ever since, they find all sorts of creative ways to NOT be with their kids. This summer, those two kids were in every kind of camp imaginable, right up to the day they started school, last week, I believe.
Sometimes I wonder, why did you go through all the trouble to adopt them, and from CHINA no less, and then spend as little time with them as possible?
So we should have aborted our child since we both work?
Nice . . .
Someday we hope to do that, but as of now it’s not possible. I can’t imagine that the best thing for my child is our home going into foreclosure.