J, I know that your experience is the experience of many. Just allow me to reassure you that some females received no monetary support from former spouses—I divorced in a no-fault state, and he didn’t pay me a penny. As a matter of fact, he actually attempted to damage my credit rating. If something’s over, it’s over and I’ll leave without looking back. However, vindictiveness toward a spouse is not limited to females vs. males. Just know that some of us aren’t gamesters who need to attach some guy’s paycheck.
Mine suits me just fine. My babies grew up well, and tomorrow I'll join my grandson and my daughter for lunch at his school.
Keep moving forward and remember that despair is a sin.
/johnny