Ive often asked, “what am I doing wrong”results is yelling an screaming,, looking for the rock to climb under....
It sounds like you’ve married some pretty immature women who are unable to have a discussion.
Figure out why that is attractive to you and you will be able to solve your problem.
In the mean time, I guess I would support your pay for sex plan. Its cheaper.
Just dont have kids with these women. You do not need that headache.