Posted on 05/07/2022 8:07:24 PM PDT by where's_the_Outrage?
Everything always gets messy once kids get involved — especially when it comes to relationships and marriages.
This story is no different — a 27-year-old man and his 26-year-old wife used to have a great relationship until one night, the wife “got drunk, had a one night stand, and got pregnant from it.”
Now, he doesn’t know if he’s in the wrong for refusing to adopt a child that isn’t his.
The affair occurred five years ago, and although they almost went through a divorce, couples therapy convinced them to stay together and try again — with some arrangements to how they would go about parenting.......
The only person here who wasn’t in the wrong was the child.
(Excerpt) Read more at msn.com ...
IANAL but, In most states I believe that a child born into a marriage is already legally his.
Best solution: divorce the wife, get the kid adopted by a stable family.
First rule of lifesaving: save yourself first.
The correct thing to do is to dump a cheating spouse.
Men who freely CHOOSE to father other kids are not cucks.
A man whose wife has such CONTEMPT for him that she chooses to get pregnant by another man, and he meekly SUBMITS TO being treated with contempt, is a cuck.
It all comes down to whether he does it by choice.
That child has a father. The father needs to take responsibility for the baby he helped create - not the poor schmuck husband who was cheated on. He bears no responsibility for that baby.
Making a husband pay for a baby his wife had as a result of cheating on him is akin to making a woman marry her rapist (as was sometimes done in the middle ages).
OF COURSE he’s likely not going to be able to let it go. She had another man’s child. Every time you lay eyes on the kid your spouse had with somebody else while married to you its like a fresh slap in the face.
That’s why you need to leave immediately if your spouse cheats on you. Any trust that ever existed in the relationship is completely destroyed.
Its one thing if you get into a relationship with a woman who already has a child by another man...or vice versa. Its quite another when your spouse cheats on you and has a child with somebody else.
In answer to your question, HELL YES you are a beta cuck if you could accept the latter. Have some self respect.
Tearful reunion in the USA
Day by day those memories fade away
Some babies grow in a peculiar way
It changed, it grew, and everybody knew
Semi-mojo
Who’s this kinky so-and-so?
Papa go
Guy I worked with was dating a gal and she already had a kid. She got him to agree that the kid was his even though it wasn’t. She dropped him but then went to court to get child support — which she won. Sheriff showed up at work one day and he scrammed out the back steps. Last I heard, he made it down to Florida from Omaha.
I have a feeling wife had decided to leave him and wanted to make sure he was on the hook for child support before she went. Arranging her Exit Strategy, basically.
“The only person here who wasn’t in the wrong was the child.”
UH.... The only person who WAS in the wrong is the cheating woman.
So by your definition a man who decides to help rear a child in a loving home and take on the responsibilities of fatherhood is a cuck by doing so? So stepfathers are cucks?
Another situation is where the husband is infertile and they agree to have the wife inseminated by someone else (artificially or in-the-flesh). But that is by mutual consent.
In a cuck situation, you are already married and your wife breaks her vows and gets impregnated through sexual intercourse with another man. This typically occurs without the man’s knowledge, so he unknowingly raises another man’s child. In that case, ignorance is bliss, I suppose. However, in this case, he does know what happened. He knows she has broken her vows and he is suck raising another man’s kid.
Of the three cases above, only the last is immoral because the wife broke her vows and the child is not the husband’s. Obviously, the marriage can continue if the husband forgives the wife and accepts the child. Personally, I would opt for a divorce and not be financially responsible for the child.
I agree with the other posters who have opined that, on some level, the wife loses respect for her husband and is likely to cheat on him again.
Amen, children are a blessing too, at a young age you may not see the positive path God has provided.
He should not only not adopt, he shouldn’t live in the house with the kid.
Acting as a paternal figure is enough for a lot of courts to stick a man with child support obligations for life.
Flee from this harlot and her spawn.
Bottom of the article:
“Fortunately, it seems as though posting on Reddit helped the man come to his senses as he posted that he would be pursuing a divorce in an update on the post.
Many would probably argue that he should have done that years ago.”
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She never did respect him. And that will just get worse, and she will cheat again, and she will keep wasting his income, and she will keep saying it’s all his fault, and he’s wasting his life and resources with a worthless ho.
#1 -— In half our states the laws say that you are financially responsible for all children your wife gives birth to.
#2 -— This guy should definitely not adopt, as his wife is putting pressure on him to do. This situation will only get worse.
““I wouldn’t adopt him.........
Five years later, the wife is trying to force him into fully becoming the child’s father, and he doesn’t know what to do besides go on Reddit in search of an answer.” -—— GET OUT NOW!
No.
Stepfathers, particularly loving ones, are fine, upstanding men.
Dudes with wives who get drunk, sleep around, get pregnant by another man, and expect the husband to be okay with it, are cucks.
Infidelity is a deal breaker for me. I’ve been with my husband 32 years (three dating and 29 married). When we said till death us do part, we meant it.
Years ago, on a flight home from a business trip, the man sitting next to me struck up conversation. At first I thought I was mistaken that he was engaging in subtle flirtation, but when he started talking about how all men cheat, I smiled and said, “Really? I dare you to say that to my husband. I hope you have good medical insurance because you will need it when he’s done answering you.”
THIS!
However, it should have been done at birth. I was adopted at birth, raised by great parents, and likely would not have been allowed to live if conceived post-Roe. And yeah, I can make that statement with assurance since I've met my birth mother and know who the sperm donor is.
The ancient common law, as usual, provides the correct solution.
Man vows that any child born of his wife’s body while they are married is uncontestably his responsibility. This solves the “Momma’s baby, Daddy’s maybe” problem.
Woman vows that any child born of her body during the marriage belongs to her husband, takes his name, and in the event of marriage dissolution or her adultery, the child(ren) remain in the husband’s family.
Law enforces no child support for unmarried mothers (whores), since the lack of a legal marriage has left open the “Mama’s baby, Daddy’s maybe” problem.
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