Posted on 06/12/2023 6:39:30 AM PDT by aquila48
When you get married, you are making a lifelong commitment to your spouse. You promise to be there for them through thick and thin, no matter what life throws your way. However, what nobody tells you is that marriage is not always easy. It takes work – lots of hard work. But if you are committed to making it work, then nothing can stop you! This article will discuss some things nobody tells you about marriage. We will also provide tips on how to make your marriage successful!
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1 Things Nobody Tells You About Marriage
2 Marriage Is Hard Work
3 You Will Argue
4 You Will Have To Compromise On Things, Big and Small
5 You Will Never Stop Learning About Your Partner
6 There Will Be Times When You Feel Like You’re The Only One Trying
7 The First Year Of Marriage Is The Hardest
8 Marriage Doesn’t Complete You
9 Statistics About Marriage
10 This Is What Nobody Tells You About Marriage!
11 Related
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Same here...my wife's mom was much more to me than a mother-in-law... she became one of my closest friends. She was an awesome person.
I disagree with number 7. That was our easiest year by far. 31 years so far. Children are what make for the tougher years IMO. The first year was like extended dating.
I wonder how many divorces there are because the realities of marriage and living together do not meet people’s expectations of how life would be?
People joke about arguments over leaving the cap off the toothpaste tube or how toilet paper hangs, but there are real issues which cause conflict.
For example, if one person wants to save for a rainy day and the other one doesn’t give a damn about running up credit card bills, there will be conflict. If the wife feels she is doing most of the housework, she gets pissed off. And her being in a bad mood affects other aspects of the relationship.
“When Mama’s not happy, no one is happy.”
About those divorces, those people who marry and divorce many times greatly bring up those averages.
11. Most divorces are initiated by women. Up to 80%, if she makes more money 90%.
Women today treat marriage as a romantic event. Once the real work begins they think the green is greener. They’ve become narcissistic and don’t even care if there’s children involved. Then they go out on the dating scene and are shocked it’s not like when they were single in their 20’s. Being 30 something, divorced, with kids, isn’t something most men are interested in. Especially when her attitude is still all about her. They believe men should value a woman that ‘has it all’, a career, house, kids, etc.. They have no idea what a man really wants.
So sorry you went through that. It would definitely have broken a lesser person. And you came out on the other side with your true soulmate. 🥰
“green is greener” —> “grass is greener”
“Compromise in many things,yes
In some things,no.”
It’s very important to set some high and clear expectations of one’s spouse and symmetrically of one’s self — with lines not to be crossed. Some of those WILL be tested at various points in a marriage, so agreement and clarity are crucial. Some of these are made explicit in the old-fashioned wedding vows (which, alas, couples rarely exchange these days); others appear in both Old and New Testament; and once in a while others are idiosyncratic to the couple.
Often a lot of anger and quibbling over the small stuff is covering for much larger issues that each partner is holding back and not wanting to confront.
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People either explode or file for divorce.
I was married for 25 years, and experienced much the same as you. I made a vow before God and my family and stayed, even though I was tempted several times to leave, but he always begged me to stay and things would get better for a while, then always back to the same ol’ same ol’. He finally decided to end it 5 years ago and set me free! I met the most amazing man and finally know what it is to be totally and utterly in love. I actually did not believe in “true love” or being in love with one’s best friend, or “soul mates”. I did not think it was really a thing, but I do now. Oh, and my ex has regretted his decision.
And why are the vast majority of divorces initiated by women?
I’m sure there are many reasons but clearly the women are unhappy otherwise they would not seek divorce in the first place. Apparently in such situations the women are unhappy but the men are happy, because it isn’t the men seeking divorce, it’s the women.
And of course there are individual exceptions . Such as, if a man is cheating on her , no one would blame a woman for seeking divorce then.
The State is a third party to the contract. Ignore that at your peril.
The State asserts that their role supersedes any moral or religious aspect you brought to the marriage.
The State is financially incentivized to have the contract broken.
The wife is incentivized to break the contract.
Yes a time when people wanted and needed a better life.
His family was small, he had grandparents, parents and siblings, but no aunts, uncles, cousins. I have oddles of all of those on both sides. Especially cousins. Shortly after we got married I had some surgery. Not serious but I did have to be in the hospital over night. I told him to send a email to the family letting them know I was doing ok.
He didn't because in his family you only sent a message if things had gone wrong. If you heard nothing then everything was all right.
Not the way things worked in my clan.
He had any number of calls and emails asking if things went well and I was ok.
He has learned to send the e-mail. :)
” nothing can stop you!’
Yes, an unfaithful or severely abusive spouse can. No matter how hard you try.
Correct, far less than 50% of FIRST marriages end in divorce.
Repeat divorcers skew the stats.
Not throwing shade on FReepers who had to divorce. Good spouses can get abandoned or cheated on.
I think the majority of divorces are initiated by women because the majority of porn addiction and adultery is initiated by men.
I know women cheat, too, but I don’t think nearly as often.
Most of us won’t stay with a man who does that, and Biblically, we don’t have to.
Good point...I didn’t know that. That really could skew the numbers especially if you have 20 married couples and 3 guys marry and divorce 4X. Instead of it being a 15% divorce rate it shows closer to 50% divorce rate. Do you know what the actual divorce rate would be taking the people with multiple divorces?
After they eat wedding cake all wives lose sexual desire.
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