I do not, as a rule, watch TikTok content, but since I saw the subject, and it involved Matt Walsh, I took a look.
First the girl with a nose ring, tattoos and biceps.
I have to preface this that, as a member of the "untattooed tribe", I think the female body, unadorned as God gave it to her, is the pinnacle of beauty. So I readily admit that I don't find messages or images inked on the body any kind of positive addition. Does that make me superficial to people who disagree with me? I expect it does, but I can't do anything about that.
In this case, she is not a physically unattractive woman. But she has an intellectual component that many men would find unattractive, if not openly repellent. It is that concept that she is a self-confessed "spaz". We may laugh at Lucille Ball when she plays the "spaz", but we don't want to be married to one. We just think the role is humorous.
- Men don't want girls with nose rings. A nose ring (or worse-those posts that stick out) are not even remotely attractive. As a matter of fact, most men find them highly unattractive. That said, men are visual creatures, and if the woman is good looking enough, feminine enough, or has enough good personality traits, I can see where men would attempt to overlook the nose ring.
- Men generally don't find girls with tattoos on visible parts of their bodies attractive, especially ones on their faces, necks, hands, legs, and other exposed parts of the body. As conceded above, men being largely visual, some men may make exceptions.
- Men don't lust after "strong" women in the sense that this woman appeared to classify herself as "strong" by holding up a big bicep. Men are interested in mentally strong women who can stand up for themselves and speak for themselves while engaging real rationality when doing so. Sure, I know a few guys who are attracted to muscular, Amazon-like women, but they are a minority. Personally, when I see a six-pack on a woman's abdomen, it is viewed as an instant negative for me, even if I accept that as an indicator that she is concerned with the fitness of her body, which is an instant positive. It is the visual and sensual appearance. Being a guy, I don't have any inclination to experience intimacy with someone who has an overall body habitus similar to a male.
Being a man, and in a life of discussion with other men regarding what they find attractive in women, it is my conclusion that men want women who are mentally stable, have strong moral convictions and intelligence, but are physically feminine.
Bottom line, this woman has made choices in her life, the nose ring and visible tattoos, that mainly bear on her apparent distress at realizing she has self-limited her pool of potential mates. If she gets rid of that nose ring, that will bring her a wider audience of men who find her attractive. All she has to do is remove it, no cost in money or time, and it is disturbing that she seems totally unaware of this.
Tattoos are different, but I would start by removing them from her hands, just as a start. Even if it is imperfect or leaves scars, many men would find, in the balance, that a woman who recognizes she made mistakes in her youth and attempted unsuccessfully to remediate them physically, is preferable to someone who continues to fail to understand that underlying dynamic of visible tattoos.
And if she can tame the "crazy person" persona (which many men find repellent) and instead adopt an open and honest recognition that she made choices in life that have negatively impacted her and is trying to do something to remediate those choices, she will find there are many men who will listen.
Sure, men are visual creatures who can be shallow when it comes to appearance and the opposite sex, but we aren't always stupid about it, and we can recognize that initial impressions based on appearance are often useful only as a triage tool when evaluating potential mates.
Now, I must go watch Matt Walsh's response...:)
Matt Walsh’s views kind of agreed with mine in many ways, which is fine, because I respect Matt Walsh.
I had to laugh when he said something like “No man anywhere was repulsed by a woman eating sushi with her bare hands as she drinks sweet tea!”
It does put her in context in that she has been sold a bill of goods by people who don’t have any interest in her outcome in life. Those people impressed on her that this is what men want, a muscular, tattooed, pierced woman who looks and thinks like them.
Most men I know who are grateful for having had the luck in life to find the woman they married, nearly without exception stress that their wives bring things to their lives as men they don’t get from themselves or from other men, and as a result, made them better men and brought stability to their lives.
I also agreed a bit with Matt Walsh on his degree of sympathy towards her. I felt some of that too. Well, she is lucky. It isn’t too late for her.