What 'you think' pushes people away is no concern to me either! People who want Truth are attracted to those who have it, I know because I experience it all the time.
I've spent most of my lifetime with atheists and agnostics
You, obviously, have much in common with them and I can see the effect they have on you. You are into 'coddling'.
You seem to be very angry and would benefit from His teaching and His ministry and would do well to follow His example in your dealing with others.
Be well.