Learning to care about what needs to be cared about can be a life time things.
Some lives, not their own fault, start out in poisonous circumstances. If you don’t think you can love the kids the right way, it would be a huge mistake to get them for ego fodder. That just spreads the poison. Though it would be hoped that even those would have enough conscience that if they had a one night stand, bring the kid to birth and have it adopted.
Yup.