Skip to comments.Make Peace With Your Children Before Bedtime and Don't Sacrifice Yourself
Posted on 02/17/2018 6:53:47 PM PST by Armen Hareyan
1. Do not let your child go to sleep in tears.
Always, no matter what the child has done, no matter how upset we are - before we go to bed, resentment is forgotten, everyone forgives each other, and we all embrace. I think it's not necessary to talk about the importance of a calm, full-fledged sleep for both adults and children.
If you feel the need to discuss whatever happened yesterday, allow your child to have a proper nights sleep, and then calmly discuss it in the morning. As they say, the morning is...
Sometimes good parenting makes a child unhappy. This sounds like a formula for raising a bad child.
What would Mike Pence do?
Making a child unhappy is one thing, sending a child to bed feeling unloved us another. Yes, I said unloved ‘cause sometimes his a child feels if there has been a disruption.
Always kiss your children “goodnight” even if they are asleep.
Only now, in my early forties, am I coming to confront the hell my mother put me through. How what she did in my childhood did much to sabotage and destroy what it means to have a chance for a happy adulthood. Going to bed with tears because of her anger and abuse? That's the least of it. And I was stupid enough to believe she was showing actual love to me. I don't know if she ever did.
It did much to destroy a massive chunk of my faith in God. It goes deeper than wondering how God could give any child such a monster for a parent. It becomes not knowing at all what having a loving parent is supposed to really be like... including a Heavenly Father. Is God loving or is He like my mother: abusive and cruel?
After she passed, my father apologized for the hell she put me through. I forgave him. And I can understand the hell she put him through. His devotion to her in her final years was biblical. I try to cling to his example. And if Lord willing someday God could let me be a husband and father, he will be the one I try to emulate. Not my mother.
How bad was she? My only sibling took too much after our mother. She is now trying to adopt a child. I have let the agency know in no uncertain terms that my sister should never be allowed to adopt a child. It has to stop. It can not be allowed to be passed down to another generation.
God forgive me for not being adequate enough in wisdom to know what to do with the legacy of a parent who was the dire opposite of the kind described in this article.
I warn them to stay away from crappy foreign blogs.
THE PEACEMAKER DYSFUNCTIONAL ROLE
New age nonsense & emotion manipulation: do not feel what you actual feel but make up peaceful events.
It is called THE PEACEMAKER. And the Peacemaker wants to give out advice.
THE ADVICE GIVER: Dysfunctional Role Number Two
I stopped right there. The internet is full of self proclaimed, immature self help gurus.
What this child would do then is steal money from his parent’s wallet, but do it right before bedtime.
The Peacemaker parents are forced to make peace. Then if they change the next morning, the rightful child would point out how inconsistent the parents are.
The new title is how to raise dysfunctional kids.
Instead, just feel what you actually feel. That is what they are there for.
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