Good Lord if you love him, talk him out of it.
Marriage is awful for men. Today there is no upside, all risk is on him. Major chance he’s divorced within ten years and she cleans him out, and God help him if he has kids cause he won’t hardly see them but its 20 years of payments to her.
Stop him from going through with it. Periodic sex that tapers off after a few years is just not worth it.
Oh give it a rest,you never stop.
Good luck to that young man.
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Boy that is too bad. My life is so much better than it would have been without my wife. On more than on occasion I’ve described our lives like two knights, back to back in the middle of a field battling off all of the bad things coming at us..each having each other’s back. I know she’s there without looking, she’s got my back.
Wow, Secret. Really? I’ve been been married for almost 30 years and don’t regret one day. When I said “I do” it was for life. Ups and downs, sure. But I wouldn’t change one thing about it.
Yes, marriage is awful for *some* men.
FR is one of the last places to bring up the topic of marriage. And never raise the subject on a Friday or Saturday night. That's when the 'I hate all women' stories come out.
Fortunately, many people have healthy and enjoyable marriages. Those people are enjoying life and they're busy playing with their grandkids.
Wrong wrong wrong
The right woman is the key to life in a never ending bliss state
Sounds like you had a bad experience. Sorry and too bad.
But that doesn’t mean the same thing will happen to everyone else.
They sound like two smart, young people who plan to go through life together.
Bitter, as you are, there may even be something good out there for you too.
Lighten up.
So sad for you that you feel no young couple has any hope of happiness. Also revealing that you only regret the happiness the man will lose out on, no thought for the young woman at all.
I have not had good result with my marriages and am rather sour on the institution, yet I know that couples can find happiness and a good life within matrimony. There are good people. There is always hope. And even if the marriage fails one day, as my marriage at that age did, now I look back on the years we didn’t have a child yet and the fun we had. No regrets really. He and I are still good friends, helped by the 10,000 miles between us.
Marriage is rough but it can be beautiful when it works.
I tell both my sons to NEVER marry, period!
Then again, they saw what their mother did and I'm pretty sure that right there convinced them NEVER to do it.
You are right. People think circumstances when they were young also apply to today. The legal and culture situations today are not what they were 25 or 50 years ago.
If my sons want to get married, that is fine. If they don’t want to, that is also fine.
I don’t want them to get married just so I have grandchildren.
That said, all you can do is say best wishes.
“Good Lord if you love him, talk him out of it.”
Give me a friging break...
Thankfully, that hasn’t been my experience.
I know you are catching some heat, but I agree with you and I am a woman. There are some truly lousy women out there who will burn really great guys. I’ve seen it happen to some of my friends. On the flip side, there are some truly fine women who have been burned by lousy men. Me, I was lucky;25 years married and he is the only man in the world for me.
Sounds like we went down the same path
I’m with you.