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I hear ya!! Parents were told in the 60’s not to spank.. to reason with the child... toddlers don’t reason... we were told not to spank/discipline in anger.. when else does one discipline.. while it’s fresh on the mind of the beholder and they know what it’s for.
I never waited on “when your father gets home”... we took care of it immediately.. a child will learn by 3 when you mean business. Keep it constitent... don’t waver just cause your’re tired.
Respect was important to me... show your mother respect! I demanded it.. but I also gave it to them.
my kids are adults but we always ALWAYS treated each other with respect.
My kids friends in high school- mom and daughter duo- they would call each other the worst names ever.