Posted on 04/23/2019 10:25:54 AM PDT by Tolerance Sucks Rocks
In July 2018, Natural Womanhood CEO Gerard Migeon published an article called “When Men Resent Natural Family Planning,” which included an anecdote from a male friend who told him “I hate NFP.” I can totally identify with that perspective. At the end of the article discussing other possible factors influencing his friend’s challenging love life outside of NFP, Gerard opened up the floor to hear other men’s experiences with NFP in an anonymous online survey. Here is my experience.
I agree 100% there is a huge need for us men to have a space to talk about difficulties with Natural Family Planning. My wife and I have similar challenges with NFP and I tried talking to my two closest guy friends about it once (who also practice NFP), but they clammed up. Typical men!
Over time, I have come to a perspective that has helped me deal with the challenges of living out Natural Family Planning in a relationship. Ultimately, my take, and my advice, are slightly different.
Like the man Gerard cited in his article last year, I too have a spouse that deals with anxiety, depression, bad upbringing, high fertility, and anger at God issues—all things that drive down the rate of intercourse to zero sometimes, no matter what the chart says. I think many people have spouses that have some kind of issue that drives the intercourse rate down. I’ve been/am there.
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ping for your consideration
I read the article. That was different.
Sounds like a whiny self centered man.
I didn’t read the article, but I think men get whiny if they’re not getting any.
Lumberjacks may be different
Who isn’t whiney when they don’t get any?
I have a healthy male libido. This simply would not work for me. And I’m 65.
What is “natural family planning”...?
Is it simply not having sex..?
Me too, and I am 78!
If he wanted to have sex, why did he get married?
“Like the man Gerard cited in his article last year, I too have a spouse that deals with anxiety, depression, bad upbringing, high fertility, and anger at God issues—all things that drive down the rate of intercourse to zero sometimes, no matter what the chart says. I think many people have spouses that have some kind of issue that drives the intercourse rate down. I’ve been/am there.”
Often, the best thing to do is to seek out a female co-worker on a business trip and discuss it with her over drinks in the hotel lounge. I hope that helps :)
No problem, they now have realistic love dolls that never bitch, complain or sue for harassment. The day is coming where a large # of men just won’t feel the need for a real woman. I pay over $20K/year alimony. I will never make that mistake again.
Youngsters! :)
“If he wanted to have sex, why did he get married?”
+100
Amen. I hear those things compliment you and can hold cold beers, too :)
Was it difficult? Yes. But not nearly as difficult as I originally thought it would be. Because of my wife's health history, we knew we had good reason for spacing our children, and it was an effective method that left us autonomous. We had no need for pills, devices, or any other artificial intervention in our relationship.
For anyone else I a situation similar to what we faced, I heartily recommend it.
Menopause is a great libido enhancement...
At least for me.
I believe the old timers used to call it “the rhythm method”.
Men who are men and who really love can do it out of love.
Love makes it doable.
” I think many people have spouses that have some kind of issue that drives the intercourse rate down. “
Is there a rate below zero? Actually, it’s probably a blessing in disguise...don’t know if the old ticker could stand the shock.
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