Posted on 11/29/2023 7:23:58 PM PST by foundedonpurpose
Freepers, I need some help and advise. The smart asses can take a time out. This has to be dealt with. It's destroyed my life.
Grateful for legit thoughts. I have to get back to who I was.
This cost me my family and everything else. Pre Obama freepers comments preferred. This will take a few days.
Regards!
Founded
Are you on/off? ‘
You? Or someone else.
Not enough info
Get well soon.
The people at Alcoholics Anonymous showed me how to recover from a seemingly hopeless state of mind and body.
I suggest you let them help you too.
I’m probably in the same boat as you. I can understand your concern and fears regarding the matter. I’ve been crying out to the VA for a year now and no answers or help. Feel free to contact me through private chat/email on here and we can discuss the issues together. I hope and pray for your well being.
Please consider us part of your support group.
(You CAN do this.)
Get a copy of “Games Alcoholics Play”, order it as you read the days of posts on this thread.
I have experience. We can have a phone call if you want help.
I will be blunt with you. A heroin study out of the Vietnam war showed that being socially disengaged has a strong correlation with alcohol and drug abuse.
The study tracked the lives of serious heroin users when they went back home and they found that 95% were able to stop using drugs, without intervention, once they connected with their families and started living their lives again.
So, my advice to you is to start mingling and doing what is interesting and meaningful. I know there is a dry club in my city that caters to addicts and they go there to play games and socialize. There may be one where you live and could be worth checking out.
I am personally not an alcoholic but have dealt with a couple of family members who are. My first advice would be - get to a meeting and take it from there.
"My worst day sober is better than my best day drunk".
Praying for you, my FRiend.
Sorry to hear that you are at loose ends.
Sometimes, turning things around requires changing lots of habits and not just saying no to one’s weaknesses. Maybe try a new exercise regime, a new diet, plan a new trip, start a new Bible study, join a new shooting range, and flood your calendar and daily planner. If money is gone then one can still double up on exercise, grooming, serious study, and the search for interesting income-producing work.
A good friend of mine turned his life around after many decades of heavy drinking, smoking, and some drug use. He stays on the straight and narrow, but makes sure I know how he’s doing.
The guy came to Christ, in part, from my witness. He went on to be a guest speaker at churches, and occasionally tells them how bad he got, and of my influence in his life.
I can’t stress it enough that you need a fully lean on Christ to help you with your burdens. Your life can turn around, drastically so, from where it is, now.
Let that happen.
I know little of your specific situation. So I’m going to assume.
When your addiction tries to convince you that you don’t have a problem, read this post. Busting through the fog addiction creates and seeing you have a problem is huge.
Do not fear inpatient care. If you can get it, take it. As long as it takes.
Do not think you’re better after detox. Your addiction will likely tell you that you’re fixed.
Do not try to fix your family. Fix yourself. The rest will fall into place as it will.
Good luck! You aren’t the first, you’re not the last, and you’re not alone!
Find a meeting and go.
Find a sponsor.
Be brave. DO THE STEPS and erase all shame and guilt.
Live free and reach your full potential.
That’s it.
Start right now.
You have to surrender yourself and admit you can NEVER have another drop of alcohol. You poison yourself with every drop you drink, physically and mentally.
A close relative lost everything, as you state is happening to you. It was a six year ordeal. Lost at least 10 jobs including the first one which was well paying. Jobs, family, 5 hospital stays, coming close to death on two of them. Almost lost the house but held on. Two stays at rehab. Failed on the first, the second succeeded because they joined AA immediately after they left rehab and returned to church.
Now they have a job, reunited with all family members, continues in AA and goes to church at least 3 times a week. It’s been a rebirth and it can happen to you.
IMO, that the important first step. You know you have a problem, and you know what your goal is.
Looks like there are a lot of folks on this forum who have walked in your shoes. Please connect with them.
And like one guy said, connect with solid, sober people in the real world.
Maybe a prescription for Topiramate. It’s a GABA A receptor positive allosteric modulator that is used as an anticonvulsant to treat epilepsy and works through GABA-A receptors (as does ethanol).
The VA recommends it for ethanol addiction:
https://www.healthquality.va.gov/guidelines/MH/sud/VADoDSUDCPGRevised22216.pdf
I will warn you that you can wean off a drug down to a tiny amount. It’s finally getting off of it that will be hard.
Long story short I was run over by a drunk driver and was on morphine for half a year. After tapering down to 1/8 of a tablet I finally quit. Didn’t sleep for almost 13 days. The doctor put me on Trazodone so I could finally sleep. I also took a drug similar to Topiramate for seizures after the wreck.
You may have to do the same.
Perhaps you could buy a graduated cylinder from Amazon and measure 1 mL less each day, and when you get to a point you can’t sleep get the Topiramate prescription.
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