Posted on 08/11/2006 5:39:43 PM PDT by kingattax
NEDERLAND, Colo. - Michelle Jorgenson thought it was odd that her 8-year-old daughter Cheyenne — conceived with sperm from a mystery man known to Jorgenson only as Donor 3066 — was extremely sensitive to sound and walked on her toes.
Jorgenson started checking on the Internet and soon learned of at least six other children around the country who were fathered by 3066. And of those seven, she discovered to her alarm, two have autism, and two others, Cheyenne included, show signs of a sensory disorder tied closely to autism.
The children's mothers located one another beginning a year ago through the Donor Sibling Registry, a Web site run out of this Colorado mountain town. It enables mothers artificially inseminated by the same donor — and children fathered by the same man — to find each other.
In this case, the women all used 3066, whose sperm was provided by the California Cryobank, based in Los Angeles.
"Pretty much you're thinking this person has a perfect medical history," said Jorgenson, who lives in Sacramento, Calif. "And then later I find out that some of the other siblings have other disabilities that are or are not attributed to the donor. I wouldn't have chose him had I known this had existed."
The Web site that brought them together is run out of Wendy Kramer's home in Nederland. Kramer started the registry so her son Ryan could find his siblings, and she said it has led to family reunions and brought joy to people who send out e-mail inquiries that typically begin, "Hi, you don't know me, but we're related."
But the site has also become a clearinghouse for those seeking answers about everything from potentially dangerous medical conditions to personality quirks. Often, they come away with more questions than answers because most sperm banks and clinics refuse to share confidential files about donors.
"There are people on our Web site seeking siblings because their kids have medical issues, for sure, and even in a medical emergency the sperm banks won't facilitate any contact, which is kind of frustrating," Kramer said.
So far, the mothers who were impregnated with 3066's sperm have been frustrated in their attempts to find out more about the man and confirm their suspicions that their children inherited their medical problems from him.
But they have formed a support group of sorts, comparing notes on their youngsters and arming themselves with medical information they might need someday.
Researchers do not know whether autism, a disorder that affects the ability to form normal social relationships and communicate with others, is a hereditary disease or an acquired illness, according to the Autism Society of America. It affects one in 175 children ages 4 through 17, the society said.
The Web site helped Jorgenson find Jenafer Elin, whose 9-year-old son Joshua, another offspring of 3066, is also sensitive to noise and hates wearing clothing with tags. Cheyenne, Joshua and their 7-year-old half-sister Allyson and their mothers met in Fresno, Calif., this summer for a reunion.
"They got along well and they hit it off immediately," said Allyson's mother, Dawn Warthen of Taneytown, Md. "They referred to each other as brother and sister. They all looked very similar with their blond hair and the girls both had shocking blue eyes."
Donor 3066 — a man of Norwegian and German descent and a member of the Screen Actors Guild — filled out a medical profile and reported only that his paternal grandmother had high blood pressure, Jorgenson said.
"Now I've learned more and more history about the other siblings, so you kind of say, `Hey, maybe the donor did know something but didn't mention it,'" Jorgenson said. She said she called the sperm bank for more information about 3066 and was turned down.
Cappy Rothman, medical director and co-founder of the California Cryobank, said 3066 has been put on "restricted" status — meaning women can still use his sperm, but are warned that problems could arise in their children — because a child fathered by him was diagnosed with what Rothman described only as a "metabolic problem." Rothman said no clients have told the cryobank their child had autism.
Rothman said the sperm bank tests for major infectious illnesses such as hepatitis and HIV, but not more exotic medical conditions, and it is not required by law to do so. The sperm bank relies on donors to fill out medical histories extending back three generations.
As for its policies on privacy, Rothman said it does not disclose its donors' identities without their consent.
Arthur Caplan, a University of Pennsylvania bioethicist, said the sperm bank field exists "somewhere between the Wild West and chaos," with no regulations regarding privacy or screening for noninfectious diseases.
"The doctors don't want regulations. The couples who want the treatments don't want regulations. And politicians don't want to go in and regulate because it puts them right smack in the middle of discussions of things like embryos," he said.
The mothers who used sperm from 3066 said they want more information from sperm banks, not just for themselves but for other mothers trying to figure out why their child is falling ill or acting differently.
"They want to know: `Why did this happen to my child?'" Jorgenson said.
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Sad stories, if their children get mildly drunk, do they start putting down Jews? If so, I think I know who the thespian sperm donar might be.
A sad situation. They planned it though. What's there to say "Oh, he jerked off into your cup too?"???
My apologies.
Strangely enough, when they compared their households there was detected an uncanny resemblance in all their glassware.
They may not find the guy, but they will find a lawyer (or maybe after this the lawyer will find them). Let the lawsuits begin.
I remember when 3 old girlfriends of mine got together and started comparing notes.
This is ridiculous. Thank you God for giving me parents that wanted me.
THe old fashioned way, a crapshoot to be sure, of picking one's husband and knowing he would father one's children, seems to work best. I guess there is nobody to sue but yourself.
This is interesting. I mean part of what all married people do is blame each other when junior makes bad grades or Sister is ill tempered. And take credit for the good stuff,,"why little daughter is so smart, just like me".
THere is something unseemly about these women. Going on the net, looking for whom to blame when their kids get something. What difference is it now. It is a bit like disowning your own child at a time of crises. No matter who the father was or what was his deal, was he a liar, it is a bit late for recriminations.
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