Life has gotten a lot better since I learned to let go of grudges and anger. People who knew me back when say I’m a totally different person.
Grudges and anger served a person back when competitive human interaction meant life or death, starvation or exile.
Those instincts are just artifacts now, like the appendix.
Harboring anger and resentment only attracts the bad spirits to you.
Once I rightfully ‘got even’ with someone who deserved it and it did more to damage me - and certainly them - than if I had just risen above and forgot it, if not forgiven.
Vengeance is mine, sayeth the Lord... getting vengeance for yourself might wind up being a lot more destructive, as patient men are slow to anger, but tend to cause more earthquakes than the situation calls for.