We've always been open about her adoption, how could we not be, she's Chinese, we're not!— and she's always been such a daddy's girl I can't see her happier with anyone else besides her father. I can understand wanting to make a biological connection, but in her case it won't be possible. But even if she could, she's told us she knows who her Mommy and Daddy
are. We had two people, one a relative, one a friend that tried treating her differently because she wasn't blood related. We told them they can change their attitude or stay out of our life.
We chose international adoption because the hoops New York state wanted us to jump through to adopt were ridiculous. A child was waiting in an over crowded orphanage that was meant for us. Neither she nor we need to be reminded we are family. I never even considered in vitro or a surrogate. There were already babies waiting! And our first child was biological.
I am a big fan of adoption. But that wasn’t the case here....what was done was already done.