Sister.
Thank you.
He is on assisted breathing, tube feeding and the whole nine.
He told my mom DNR many times but she can’t bring herself to do it as long as there’s a glimmer of hope and she doesn’t want to hurt my brother. It came up at one point and she looked at me and I told her it was her decision and not my place to tell her one way or another.
He was heavily sedated so his body could fight the infection.
He can’t talk right now but he did finally open his eyes and could understand us and blink to answer questions.
I believe the DNR document is enormously beneficial to nursing homes (from a liability perspective) and detrimental to patients. There is no need for a DNR order. Your mom is right there (or just a phone call away). She can make that decision at any time, why do it now?
Please tell your mom she made the right choice.
That was the first and last time he ever used a smartphone. He was notoriously distrustful of computers (he said that they hated him, is why he could never figure them out LOL).
We've joked a few times that it took us awhile, but Dad finally joined the rest of us in the 21st century :-)
Prayers for you and your family.