Grew up in KS in the 50’s. Never personally hit, but most every year we saw destruction somewhere in the state.
We had a huge basement and a buried railroad tank car, which I think was there as a civil defense shelter. Us kids used it as a submarine.
Been in CA many decades now and have been thru many quakes, a few really dramatic. So far the worst has been a cracked driveway.
Sounds like you were not hit by a tornado in Kansas, but in Cali, you have a cracked driveway from earthquakes. And the big one is still coming.
Perhaps the Kansas tornadoes had more psychological impact due to seeing those destruction. The future big California quake will likely be far more psychologically damaging.