I was not spanked; I raised five children that I did spank. The difference? My parents were atheists; I am a Christian.
I am not “in love with hitting children.” Perhaps you are “in love” with asserting your wisdom over God’s.
At any rate, my kids have turned out well by most objective standards
Not one has ever been arrested
Not one is on drugs or ever has been
All adults are working good jobs or are full time students
Not one is abusive
All are respectful of authority
All are generally very happy
All are giving, gracious, kind, hard working people
None have required any sort of psychiatric care
Not have evidenced any self harm behaviors, ever
All seem to have healthy good relationships
Not one ever ran away from home
Now we did ALL of God’s word, not just the spanking part. There are many spokes on the biblical parenting wheel. Furthermore, I know that you can well nigh be a perfect parent and still have a very messed up child - there is a lot of evil in this world, and perfect parenting can not a perfect child make.
That said, if spanking was somehow bad - if Gods word is in error - it seems to me our kids would have had a few more problems than they do.
I’m very proud and grateful you were saved despite atheist parents
I have five kids too and spanked all of them some
My oldest boy most
It works but I sure didn’t like it
A couple of them I spanked just to even it out so it didn’t seem concentrate solely on most guilty or most defiant
Talking to kids rarely is as effective except with perfect kids
How many times in my life have I heard a woman threaten an errant child in public and do nothing but talk and the kid knows this
Bad behaving kids know if they are disciplined someone cares and is paying attention
It’s like teaching manners where I live
Yes sir yes ma’am etc
Younger people who are married do not spank as a rule
They indulge
I do not for a second believe 80 percent
Parenting has gone to hell since the 50s
And it shows
Numbnuts want to know if male parent discipline works
Two pieces of evidence
No black daddies to discipline the boys
No discipline in most schools
And how has that worked out
I was spanked with a folded yardstick or belt or frat paddle
I used a big paint stirrer
I’m a believer
Hat tip Mr Dolenz