[DannyTN]

• This is not uncommon and it can happen with either sex, husband ignoring wife and wife ignoring husband.
• It is very detrimental to a marriage and it needs to be addressed, if possible.
• Understand there can be many reasons including but not limited to:
  1. Physical performance issues.
  2. Mental performance issues.
  3. Trust issues.
  4. Porn addiction
  5. Opposite sex attraction
  6. History of abuse.

Possible courses of action include:

1. Get him to a men's clinic.
2. Get some samples of viagra or cialis and get him to try them.
3. Make his general doctor aware there is a problem and get him to go in.
4. Go see a counselor, preferably a Christian counselor with psychologist degree.
5. Guys are visual...get some lingerie.
6. Never act upset if he can't perform. Be reassuring and patient. Let him know you'll be there for him.

[OldArmy52]

Yeah, worse thing a wife can do to a guy is to laugh or make smary comments on a night when we try but fail to get it up. Our ability to get it up is linked to our self esteem. Failure to get it up makes us doubt ourselves and become insecure. Wife needs say...”You are probably tired and had a stressful day...we do it so other time.”

[Snowybear]

This is by far the best post I’ve ever seen on this subject.