This is actually about when I suffered a hemorrhagic stroke 5 years ago, although a result of a condition known as an AVM.
I remember very little of it. The neurosurgeon described my condition during that period as "semi-comatose", whatever that means. I was out of it for about a week. Once I "woke up", I was up. I heard the unmistakable sound of a garbage truck in the area and I was up.
Physically, I recovered quite well, although I was coming up on 51st birthday in a few weeks, when it happened. Mentally, was a different story. Some things came back quickly, others in time, other things never recovered. I guess each case in different.
My apologies if I rambled or was unclear. My wife is a saint for putting up with the situation. There are a couple of things you have to remember about your new life as a caregiver:
1. Your mom will get frustrated and take it out on you. That's not her fault, it's a new situation for her.
2. You will get frustrated with her, keep taking it out on her to a minimum. It your patience are getting frayed, walk away for a couple of minutes.
3. Reread number 2.
Wow, you were so YOUNG!!!
And yes, the frustration is upsetting to me. Her frustration we try to blunt with an antidepressant etc, and to keep the little kids out of the room she spends her time in. Sometimes she is in a Get off My Lawn mood. But my frustration at her makes me feel like a bad caregiver because she can’t help it. She fights everything and it gets weary. Or she chatters superficially while driving and I start to lose my mind. “There’s a white car! Oh, two white cars! Now three white cars! A red car!” I start to lose it. I wish I didn’t. Thanks for your advice. I’m trying!