Thanks for that! This is something that has been worrying me for quite a while. (Like about 25 years).
The bizarre thing about it is that all the ones I meet are (seem to be - and I’m pretty street smart) really nice people, so it’s obviously not a personal thing.
Is it just Tikya?
Let’s start a new practice. It’s called “Reverse Tikiya”
(There’s no standard spelling for this word.)