Posted on 09/15/2017 8:15:38 PM PDT by BJ1
If we get straight to the point and skip the BS that’s only used to soften the blow of painful facts, we can admit it’s hard to find a good man. Even if we take our standards, expectations, and delusional hopes off the table and really look at the situation for what it is, we can clearly see that we are not to blame for the lack of good men. No, we have society who can take the blame for this one.
Unfortunately, our culture has evolved in a way that has made finding a good man tough ― and they certainly don’t make them like they used to. So, why is it so damn hard to find an awesome guy who’s going to treat you right and not bail the first time temptation comes his way? Here are nine reasons.
1. Hookup culture has taken over. Although I would never knock hooking up, it has replaced dating and even relationships. Men don’t want to be with one woman only, if they have an entire buffet at their disposal.
2. People have too many options. While it’s good to have options, it can be bad when there are too many options. At any given moment a guy can sit down at a dating app and immediately have endless options of women from which to choose. Because of that, it’s hard for them to give one woman a shot for more than a hot minute.
3. Lots of guys are holding out for something “better.” It’s a sad thought, but in a world with so many options, people can become immersed in the idea that something better might be just around the corner. Because that’s the case, it’s hard to find a man who wants to commit when they’re thinking that the next woman they meet could be perfect ― whatever perfect is.
4. Marriage is becoming obsolete. Once upon a time, people couldn’t wait to get married. Although it was likely due to the fact that they would finally be able to have sex, the reality is that these days people are in no rush to get married, so therefore, they’re in no rush to get into a relationship or settle down. And if a guy’s friends aren’t married, he sure as hell won’t be the first one to do it.
5. Some men are intimidated by power. In comparison to the past few decades, women are more independent than ever. This success and power, for some reason, can be intimidating for some men who, perhaps, realize that they’ll never be the “man” his female partner is.
6. Technology has created distance. How can anyone possibly find a good man or anyone at all when we live in a world where technology rules and our most intimate relationships are with our iPhones? We can’t.
7. The “man-child” is a legitimate problem. A man-child is a just modern day term for a man who suffers from Peter Pan Syndrome: He does not want to grow up. If he grows up, he’d have to become responsible, get his act together, and even maybe find a girl and fall in love. Too many men just don’t want to do that.
8. Everyone has their baggage. No one is immune to having a rocky past, and sometimes that past can interfere with how that person moves forward ― if they move forward at all. Messy baggage can keep even the great guys in hiding for a long time.
9. Being phobic of commitment is accepted. We live in a world where being scared of commitment has simply become the norm. If a man doesn’t want to commit, people are rarely surprised. Since that’s the case, they’ll just keep on skipping out on commitment and sticking to hookup culture, because it’s so accepted.
An old article of hers
A piece of Chatel no man wants.
How about opt out built-in pre-nups? Turn the tables around.
I NEVER put her on the title. Try again.
Not knocking you, just relating how I got nailed, and I suspect I am one of many.
Dower and curtesy laws?
Sign a quit claim deed or lose your government pension.
Oh no...that’s wrong. Sorry that happened to you.
Good thing I kept that pension. I had to live on the payout for several years.
Oh no! That’s not my current situation.
Just saying that in general it’s not a good idea to marry someone you don’t love.
I guess my wife didn’t follow that scrip, nor did her 7 siblings. But I do know many people who made the mistake of marrying a white woman...
Supply and demand explain much of this an excellent book dateonomics explains very well
Along with the milk, you can also get the STDs for free.
I’ll agree with that. The advice is a bit deeper.
I know a guy on his fourth Asian wife. He’s an older guy (70?). He has a son with the first iirc.
When he told me that I was astounded (I’m on my first and only wife - almost 30 years now).
“Four!?”
“It’s great. Get a prenup for sure. I got myself fixed after my son. They are wild in bed, love to cook and dote on me. In four years they have their green cards and then want to leave. But that’s okay - I’m tired of them by then anyway. Give it a year, then go back and get another one. It’s about $30,000 every five years - about the same as leasing a car I figure!”
I thought he was nuts, but whatever works. The last time I saw him he had just come back from their annual family get-together - him, his son and the four wives! They all get along great!
==8-O
This makes me laugh.
The problem for young women is they really do need a good provider of emotional support and financial stability in order to reproduce the species. And men are sick of the feminist agenda where it’s always heads, women win, tails, guys lose.
So the good girls get shafted. It’s rough. If you don’t want kids, or you already have them, you could just find a male companion and have fun and let it go where it may. But for children, women do need someone who is as committed to their growth to adulthood as she is.
Society has changed too much for young men and young women to know a “good one” when they find one. It’s not like those warbler birds who know to look for the male with the biggest nest or something. We sure do pick wrong. I know I probably picked wrong with both my husbands. I didn’t know any better.
Asia is a 50-50 proposition at best. I'd suggest a quick glance at South America. Seriously.
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