Posted on 09/15/2017 8:15:38 PM PDT by BJ1
If we get straight to the point and skip the BS that’s only used to soften the blow of painful facts, we can admit it’s hard to find a good man. Even if we take our standards, expectations, and delusional hopes off the table and really look at the situation for what it is, we can clearly see that we are not to blame for the lack of good men. No, we have society who can take the blame for this one.
Unfortunately, our culture has evolved in a way that has made finding a good man tough ― and they certainly don’t make them like they used to. So, why is it so damn hard to find an awesome guy who’s going to treat you right and not bail the first time temptation comes his way? Here are nine reasons.
1. Hookup culture has taken over. Although I would never knock hooking up, it has replaced dating and even relationships. Men don’t want to be with one woman only, if they have an entire buffet at their disposal.
2. People have too many options. While it’s good to have options, it can be bad when there are too many options. At any given moment a guy can sit down at a dating app and immediately have endless options of women from which to choose. Because of that, it’s hard for them to give one woman a shot for more than a hot minute.
3. Lots of guys are holding out for something “better.” It’s a sad thought, but in a world with so many options, people can become immersed in the idea that something better might be just around the corner. Because that’s the case, it’s hard to find a man who wants to commit when they’re thinking that the next woman they meet could be perfect ― whatever perfect is.
4. Marriage is becoming obsolete. Once upon a time, people couldn’t wait to get married. Although it was likely due to the fact that they would finally be able to have sex, the reality is that these days people are in no rush to get married, so therefore, they’re in no rush to get into a relationship or settle down. And if a guy’s friends aren’t married, he sure as hell won’t be the first one to do it.
5. Some men are intimidated by power. In comparison to the past few decades, women are more independent than ever. This success and power, for some reason, can be intimidating for some men who, perhaps, realize that they’ll never be the “man” his female partner is.
6. Technology has created distance. How can anyone possibly find a good man or anyone at all when we live in a world where technology rules and our most intimate relationships are with our iPhones? We can’t.
7. The “man-child” is a legitimate problem. A man-child is a just modern day term for a man who suffers from Peter Pan Syndrome: He does not want to grow up. If he grows up, he’d have to become responsible, get his act together, and even maybe find a girl and fall in love. Too many men just don’t want to do that.
8. Everyone has their baggage. No one is immune to having a rocky past, and sometimes that past can interfere with how that person moves forward ― if they move forward at all. Messy baggage can keep even the great guys in hiding for a long time.
9. Being phobic of commitment is accepted. We live in a world where being scared of commitment has simply become the norm. If a man doesn’t want to commit, people are rarely surprised. Since that’s the case, they’ll just keep on skipping out on commitment and sticking to hookup culture, because it’s so accepted.
10. Women get priority over men in college admissions and hiring for jobs. A man kept from the world of work loses confidence in himself.
11. The popular culture castrates men and turns them into stupid, spineless wimps.
12. Many women are not feminine. They feel the need to act like they think a man acts and turn into undesirable b!tches.
13. People in general are becoming more and more shallow and lacking in any principles of any kind. Men and women.
14. More and more women are relying on apps to find a d!ck to keep them company for the night. The man behind the d!ck is not going to be interested in the slut as a permanent partner.
there are more.
I miss my former fiancée terribly. She had no tats, no weird-ass piercings, no fat, nice long dark hair, pretty almond-shaped eyes, high IQ, generally Conservative. Pretty, petite and exotic (Eurasian and Iroquois). The actress Ginger Gonzaga comes fairly close to what she looked like (albeit a half foot taller than my ex). We’d have been married with kids by now had it not been for her soon to be M-I-L hating her guts with a passion of a burning sun, and she abused and stressed her out to the point of wrecking her health (mental and physical) and finally ran her off (I kid you not). 14 years after losing her, ain’t been nobody else. :-(
Actually, that quote is attributed to Mae West.
Yep - works both ways. If the “good ones” seek each other out and don’t expect to snag a “good one” w/o exhibiting the same “goodness”, they would discover there are plenty to go around..
You want to be controlled by a tiger mom?
What does homestead your house mean
bingo
Seriously, nine reasons without mentioning the number one cause: modern feminazism.
Who wants to buy a cow and risk losing half their stuff and income for life when free milk is so readily available?
I'm blessed to have a good old fashioned wife who has blessed me with three adorable children . . . and now even more adorable grandchildren.
I’ve long thought you’re right about that. And the problem is of course that if a woman tries to reassert that right to withhold herself, a guy will just move on.
Clearly you're not a divorce lawyer. Yes, she can absolutely take half that house depending on the state she lives in.
In Illinois for example, she not only gets half, she'll get 60% of the net proceeds once she forces the sale through divorce and tells the judge she hasn't worked in 10 years.
Women who get divorced in Illinois after Jan 1 2016 basically hit the lottery.....
Why didn’t you just say it’s the way Hillary looks when she’s not smiling? LOL
what is homestead
you mean you let your own mother wreck your life?
sorry I didn’t mean to say a young Asian... younger than me probably but not that young.
Not by choice.
Why didn’t you tell your mother you would erase her from your life if she didn’t butt the hell out?
My MIL competed with me for my husband and he was just as wishy washy as you. She was a nightmare as a MIL and a mean selfish grandmother.
You should have put your hell on wheels mom in her place. No one is going to put up with that sh8t.
Funny, you could replace the word man with the word woman in each of the examples, and they would still apply.
Look to the content of the old Boy Scouts of America and you can find the principles that define a good man. There are so few actual good men since the BSA were taken over by evil.
Why the heck would you let your OWN mother destroy someone her???
That’s the worst! MY MIL hated that my husband loved me as much as he did. Took him a long time to tell her to shut up.
That was a good day.
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