I can understand that. I worked with a lot of christians who did seem to spend a lot of time making sure that the other christians they rubbed elbows with were “true believing”.
In the Catholic Church the sacrament of Confession gets rid of that concern by focusing one on one’s own spiritual condition, with the goal to stop particular sins and eradicating predominant faults. It is a wonderful sacrament.
This may seem crass.
The question is: “Should an individual ‘confess their sins’ to another human being, or to the Creator themself?”
I might be a bit ‘off’ about ‘the church’. My first 3 years of school were peppered with sitting in the waste bucket, behind the closed door of the coat closet, knuckles rapped with wood rulers, and a few times with the nun’s noticeable complete handprint on my face. Lastly, when my friend ran into a busyy street after a ball, during yhe funeral service, the priest pointed at me, blamed me before the whole crowd