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"Getting married today is far too risky - at least in the US. I’d not do it. I might marry someone from another country, but not an american woman. No way."

You moved out to the hills for a reason and I'm sure most people around here accepted you for the good man that you are (I read your posts) but we don't need attitudes like that influencing our young. We have enough problems with drugs and govt handouts keeping new families from forming.

It's just a guess, but you're still hearing the phrase, "You're not from around here, are ya?" quite a bit, aren't you?

It’s just a guess, but you’re still hearing the phrase, “You’re not from around here, are ya?” quite a bit, aren’t you?

Nope. I found a church my small town (it’s a university town) where I have more in common with the members. I learned the hard way that one needs to be around their peers to really be able to be them self.

My attitude comes from experience and observation. Some ask me why I’m not angry with my ex but I am angry with the government. The reason is simple and twofold:
1. We all do bad things to others from time to time. We are all “disobedient children on the play ground”. And a woman that just wants to not be married any more is kinda like a pre-teen that thinks they want a sex change. That is, it’s dangerous and stupid, but when the government empowers their decision, the government becomes the problem. Which leads to number 2;
2. She clearly regrets it and it has just made her a bitter man hater. If she had stayed in the marriage her life would be better now by at least a couple orders of magnitude. I completely forgave her a long time ago, but she has become a dangerous person to me and our daughters.

As long as the government is empowering women to self destruct - and destroy their families - by putting the full power of the government and the government’s gun behind it, it is foolish for a man to marry a woman in the US. The odds of even the “right girl” having feelings of dissatisfaction in a marriage are ridiculously high. And when the kids reach their teenage years (that’s where ours were when she did this), the stress can be strong, and the temptation to just “get out” can be as well.

No-fault divorce makes getting married, for a man, one of the highest risk endeavors on the planet. Even a Christian man. Would you buy a $50,000 car with a one year warranty if the odds of it totally breaking down in 18 months was 40%? This is something along those lines. And, sadly, you don’t have a clue in the beginning if you got a bad one or not.

I will say this: My current wife and I were both 43 when we met. We knew what we were getting and it proved spot on. At 20, fuggetaboutit. It’s a complete crap shoot.