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To: HamiltonJay

It does make you manipulate though. And she’ll do that throughout tree marriage.


63 posted on 03/23/2018 8:05:14 AM PDT by DesertRhino (Dog is man's best friend, and moslems hate dogs. Add that up. ....)
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To: DesertRhino

I really fail to see how its manipulative, honestly.

IF she’s open and up front about it from day one, how are you being manipulated?

Some girl tells you flat out, I have no intention of dating exclusively until I am engaged, its hard to claim that’s being manipulative.

After all, if the intention of courtship is to get married, what benefit does she have to be exclusive with someone who isn’t ready, willing or able to commit to marrying her?

I don’t see this as deceptive at all, or manipulative. I understand it may trigger a jealousy response for some men, who might cause them to pop the question even though they probably shouldn’t... but I fail to see this as manipulative.

Honestly, if a woman’s end goal is to find a husband, why would she take herself off the market just because some guy, who won’t promise to marry her, wants her to stop seeing other people? How does that help her get any closer to being married?

Seriously guys, poop of get off the pot. IF you aren’t ready to poop, get off the pot.. This policy isn’t bad for a woman, its not manipulative. I don’t know if it will always result in the best relationship, but it is hardly a “trick” or manipulative, as long as she’s up front and honest about it out of the gate.

I will guarantee this, a woman who follows that guideline sure isn’t going to find herself in a years long relationship with some peter pan boy who won’t commit, and wondering why.

It will also force any man involved with her, to really think hard, is she the one... is she Ms Right. or just Ms Right now?? And what woman who is looking for marriage whats to be Ms Right now? Seriously, if that’s all you want then, its better she not waste her time.

Grow a pair, man up.. what whiny little boys we seem to have here.

If you don’t like a gal with that policy, don’t date her, but I really truly don’t see anything, tricky, sneaky or manipulative about it as long as she’s up front, when you ask her to be committed, but won’t give her a ring, and she tells you not without a ring, that’s NOT manipulative, that’s just being frank.

If that bothers you, move on to someone else.... because She sure is better off not wasting her time with someone who want’s the goods, but not the responsibility.

I don’t know if its the best policy for a woman, but it sure as hell isn’t sneaky or manipulative.


81 posted on 03/23/2018 8:19:30 AM PDT by HamiltonJay
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