Not possible to be friends.
Friends dont wait to get pissh at something you say so they can then be offended and have their desired drama and tension tantrum.
Friends dont expect you to fix all their broken stuff and do things for them, but they never seem to return the favor when you really need help.
Women do not keep men around to be friends. Men are just things that do things for them, and if you are not going to do things for them, or be an emotional tampon for them, they will no longer want to “be friends”.
Guys can hang out, they dont expect other friends to just do things for them without reciprocating, they dont create drama and get pissy because they are bored or are offended.
And guys dont lie about being raped or sexually harassed by other guys.
“And guys don’t lie about being raped or sexually harassed by other guys.”
I’ve always thought that the “Pence Rule” was primarily about that. (As was Billy Graham’s before him.) Perhaps some of it was to curb actual lust, but primarily to avoid the perception of wrong-doing (”What was she doing in there with Dr. Graham for an hour with the door closed!!??”). And I think in today’s world to avoid any false accusations.
I’ve been in numerous small-group Bible studies with women in them. Of course, we were mostly all married couples, but they became “friends” in the context of those weekly studies in our various homes and in church. Of course it never dawned on me to meet up with one of the women for drinks after work. (Well - actually we did a few times - with my wife and as a group before going out for some other function.)
True dat.
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