Perhaps I’m not understanding their complaints clearly, but could there be a problem with THEIR expectations of the type of woman they hope to date?
I mean, they talk about how inadequate they are. Aren’t there plenty of women who feel similarly about their features or appearance who also feel deprived of a relationship with a man because they see themselves as not pretty enough?
Are they unhappy unless they can be a member of the Brangelina and Bennifer crowd? (Perhaps those are not the best examples since both of those couples ended up splitting.)
No, there aren’t plenty of women in that situation. The ‘equivalent’ subreddits where lonely women go to complain attract a small number of women with complaints ilke all the men that ask them being the wrong type or that their last relationships failed.
Women have a stronger buyers market than ever and no real need anymore for providers or even a husband. Services like Tinder have turned finding men into catalog shopping. Any woman who just wants some attention can put her picture on a dating service and receive messages from dozens or hundreds of men who think she is pretty enough to date. If she actually wants to date, she can just flick off the unattractive men and then only talk to the best looking ones to ascertain if she wants to go out with them or not.
It sounds like these incel guys hate women — maybe for good cause; I don’t know. But if they go into a new relationship there’s a good chance the woman will feel those vibes and not want to invest time and energy with this person.
Or, he could hide those feelings for a while, a relationship develops, and then become verbally abusive when he feels safe to be himself. She walks; he whines. It becomes her fault.