“I don’t want to be a burden on my children.”
The burden was placed on them back in 1935 and with every FICA/SE tax hike since.
The FICA/SE tax burden isn’t being increased.
The FICA/SE tax burden is federal, it’s not something you or your kids have a say in.
For those three years, you can mail the refunds from the taxes they paid and got refunded to you, to them, if you want.
Not my doing if I’m not drawing. Hence I will not be a burden