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1 posted on 07/03/2018 9:36:34 PM PDT by Lean-Right
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Prayers up for him.


2 posted on 07/03/2018 9:41:18 PM PDT by RushIsMyTeddyBear
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I know not how to help you. But I will pray hard for you and your family.


3 posted on 07/03/2018 9:44:04 PM PDT by drellberg
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You need to find the best doctor you can who is familiar with this kind of brain injury.

Is your son living with you? Are you enabling drug and alcohol use? That needs to end ASAP.


4 posted on 07/03/2018 9:47:43 PM PDT by iowamark
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Sounds like he needs to be in an inpatient program for awhile to be and feel safe, get his meds on board conaistently and learn to manage his emotional state better. The family could be involved as well, to help all of you learn how to handle the situation better. I’m sorry for all of you and hope he can get the help he desperately needs.


5 posted on 07/03/2018 9:49:03 PM PDT by bluejean (I'm becoming a cranky old person. It really annoys me.)
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I just said a prayer for him and all of you.

We have asked so much of men like him. It is a sorrow to hear this account.

I pray that he can make it out the other side with family intact. To be young and so full of rage and anger is a trial indeed.

Good luck and God Bless all of you.


6 posted on 07/03/2018 9:49:36 PM PDT by rlmorel (Leftists: They believe in the "Invisible Hand" only when it is guided by government.)
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TBI changes *everything*.

Much of what you describe, he cannot possibly “help”.

His brain has been rewired by the injury and this may be his new normal.

How and what he “thinks” is being influenced by damaged neural pathways, some of which can totally change a person to “someone else”.

There are therapists who specialize in TBI and you should try to help him find one.

It will not ‘fix’ the TBI side effects but it can help him to understand what has happened to him, why he perceives things as he does, now, and hopefully he can find ways to cope with/manage it.

TBI is a living Hell I would not wish on anyone.

/TBI, too


7 posted on 07/03/2018 9:50:01 PM PDT by Salamander (I ride all night and I travel in fear, that in this darkness, I will disappear...)
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It sounds like he should get disability for his issues. They sound debilitating.

There are groups that help veterans. Have you put him in touch with these people (who aren’t family)?

8 posted on 07/03/2018 9:52:16 PM PDT by ConservativeMind (Trump: Befuddling Democrats, Republicans, and the Media for the benefit of the US and all mankind.)
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How is your son’s relationship with the VA? Maybe you could talk to his doctor, or a counselor? I know that some of the docs are good, others not so good. I hope you and your son can get some help.


9 posted on 07/03/2018 9:52:44 PM PDT by matthew fuller (How many of today's voters have ever seen a half-dollar coin (or silver dollar)?)
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I don’t have any good answers, but I will pray for you and your family.
I do know in the face of alcohol use, sometimes it’s hard to assess how bad the underlying problems actually are.


10 posted on 07/03/2018 9:53:27 PM PDT by GnuThere
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Prayers for you and he family and him.

I am assuming, from your post, that he lives with you and your wife...correct? Are you fearful of what might happen if you set rules?

Rules like: No pot. Get a job. Your grandkids visit when you say so, not him.

Either he gets it together and sincerely tries to do what he needs to do or he hits the road.

You, your wife and the rest of the family have a right to a decent, peaceful life and the pursuit of happiness.


11 posted on 07/03/2018 9:53:49 PM PDT by Az Joe (I AM TRUMP!)
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Prayers up !


12 posted on 07/03/2018 9:59:45 PM PDT by snooter55 (People may doubt what you say, but they will always believe what you do)
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PTSD doesn’t have to be a permanent problem, it’s a byproduct of unprocessed events that need to be reduced to memories. Since in his case the events were in war, the VA may be able to help.

You might see if they have recommendations as to how you might get him into treatment.


13 posted on 07/03/2018 10:05:11 PM PDT by MrEdd (Caveat Emptor)
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This might be your best bet. Working with guys with TBI like your son is what they do.

Warrior Angels Foundation

Here is an interview with the founder: Interview - Joe Rogan Experience with Andrew Marr (Founder Warrior Angels) and Dr. Mark Gordon

Interview with Andrew Marr and Dr. Mark Gordon

Best of luck.
14 posted on 07/03/2018 10:10:31 PM PDT by Ron/GA
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First, for your sake, please contact Al-Anon in your community. These are people who have gone through similar experiences as you have with a loved one who is using alcohol or drugs to face their problems.

Al-Anon exists for you first and foremost. Here is their website: Al-Anon. This is not alcoholics anonymous, but a complimentary organization for family members facing the same struggles as you are with loved ones who are out of control.
 

15 posted on 07/03/2018 10:19:00 PM PDT by Governor Dinwiddie (MAGA in the mornin', MAGA in the evenin', MAGA at suppertime . . .)
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Sounds like a very serious situation. There are people and organizations that can help, but there has to be some desire on his part to get back on the right track. If you can’t convince him, maybe some of his buddies can help. I know of one group here in Houston TX that has a good track record and as far as I know they don’t charge for anything.

http://ptsdusa.org/camp-hope/


16 posted on 07/03/2018 10:19:40 PM PDT by smokingfrog ( sleep with one eye open (<o> ---)
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Know this: I had TBI and all the symptoms. Doctors said I’d have it for the rest of my life. After 5 years of it, I cleaned up my diet and one day, the fog - aka the iron curtain - lifted (accidentally; I never expected it). Even my memory came back (mostly). Some weeks it’s like opening a new book, the old memories which present once again.

I view PTSD and many forms of mild TBI as complications to other health issues.

My stepson claims he has PTSD. The problem is that he’s no different now than before he shipped out. Just wiser (except for women). On his own, he cleaned up his own diet and I credit that for his symptoms not manifesting like some of his buddies. He makes excuses, but always seems to find a way to make it work. The big difference is that he’s NOT here at home, but 1000 miles away.

In many ways I fault those stuck in the rut of PSTD for relying on doctors & family. To be perfectly clear, I’m no fan of psychotropic drugs. At all. Your son needs to quit the drugs & booze or he’ll continue to spiral down until other bad choices present...and for that I fear for you and your grandchildren.

Provided it doesn’t make your world worse (it may), if you’re inclined print and leave this (below) where he can find it or mail it to him. I truly hope he has access to counseling or at least his comrades to speak to (if the wood chopping is physically-impossible for reasons you don’t elaborate or not suitable due to your city location, delete that portion):

Dear ____...once-proud soldier,

I know your pain and also know how you are inflicting it on those in your circle; been there, done that. You shame your brothers for declaring war upon your family, but we know that is not your intention. If you are unable to seek help, exile yourself and spare your family your inflicted pain.

If, by chance, you remember - even for a moment, now or some point in the future - who you were before the excuse of PTSD delivered you the rationale engage addiction to inflict pain upon your family, life is either a blessing...or a curse.

Grab an axe and go chop wood. Chop until you can no longer swing the axe, stack it and then look at what you accomplished. Be proud. Then reflect upon the core of your pain and chop away once again. Break it down and stack it just like the wood the first time. Even if it doesn’t make any sense, stack all your pain and put it “over there” where it can’t hurt anyone, including both your family...and YOU. It will always be there, but stacked like wood it’s harmless. When the pain returns, don’t grab a bottle or a bong...grab an axe and exorcise your pain. Like a woodpile, you can touch it...you can feel it, but it’s not hurting anyone.

It’s YOUR choice...not the Army’s, your fallen brothers, Hajji’s or anyone else’s fault. Certainly not your family’s fault who only wants to help you.

Signed,

A concerned brother.


17 posted on 07/03/2018 10:24:53 PM PDT by logi_cal869 (-cynicus-)
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Rage and uncontrollable anger are often consequences of TBI (impulsiveness is too), and a damaged memory function can make normal behavior and normal functioning in society nearly impossible.

your son’s drastically altered emotional states and damaged personality arise directly from the combined organic damage listed above, thus his problems are not psychological in origin but originate in physical damage, it’s just that the physical damage isn’t visible as it would be if, say, a limb were missing.

sadly, it’s possible that no matter what is done, that that kind of damage may not be fully fixable, just like a lost limb isn’t fully fixable ... maybe your son can get better, but maybe not ... and that’s a hard thing that ya’ll may have to accept.

i’m not an expert, but have seen something similar before, including the terrible impact it has on loved ones desperately trying to cope with an impossible situation ...

my heart goes out to you and pray that a resolution is possible ...


19 posted on 07/03/2018 10:37:37 PM PDT by catnipman ((Cat Nipman: Vote Republican in 2012 and only be called racist one more time!))
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From what you write, there was a physical brain injury. I wish the psychs would separate that from mentions of PTSD, which is often described as being purely mental. Some of the linguistic activism in medical rackets is nauseating.

He needs to see someone who specializes in physical head injuries, even if it was a shock injury without any apparent skull wounds (shock wave from explosion, etc.; still physical injuries).

He might need a structured environment (impatient or full time facility) for a while. It’s not always a permanent situation. I’ve known several men who recovered from physical brain injuries to really be themselves again for all practical purposes.

It’s getting tiresome with the greedy, lazy, brutal medical rackets refusing to have manage and direct funding to full time facilities for people who need them. Such human conditions shouldn’t be relegated to families and neighbors (us) without related educations, training and facilities. The medical and insurance racket crooks are focusing their efforts more on where the money is (favorite pet demographics, helping rich folks to live forever, etc.).


23 posted on 07/03/2018 10:59:09 PM PDT by familyop ("Welcome to Costco. I love you." - -Costco greeter in the movie, "Idiocracy")
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Capito. Your son is suffering. He does not belong in your house. He belongs in a home for the disabled.

Yes, lots of suffering. He needs disability insurance and a social worker to place him in a home. Talk to the department of mental health in your area to get the ball rolling.


26 posted on 07/03/2018 11:12:27 PM PDT by Falconspeed ("Keep your fears to yourself, but share your courage with others." Robert Louis Stevenson (1850-94))
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Dear Lean-Right, praying for your son, your wife, and whole family. I hope some of the experience and suggestions others shared help your son, and give you some hope & encouragement. I am grateful for your son’s service and very sad that he’s suffering as a result, and ask God to relieve and heal him.


27 posted on 07/03/2018 11:16:14 PM PDT by MonicaG (God bless our military! Praying and thanking God for you every day. Thank you!)
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