I have heard many stories like this. They make it incredibly hard to adopt domestically. A lot of kids are available from horribly abusive or drug-addled mothers: true, these kids NEED homes, but often they're very emotionally damaged, cannot bond with you, their behavior is erratic and they present a real risk to your other children.
And since my husband and I had exceeded the age limit set by most agencies or adoptors (we were 40 and 41) our only option, really, was that Russian orphanage.