Most transgenders (80-90%) are biological men. Most of those (75%+) keep the male plumbing while identifying as women.
That’s why the demands to have gender IDENTITY and access to facilities is so divisive - it is a demand for biological men with the plumbing to enter women’s bathrooms, locker rooms, showers, dorms, shelters. If they’d had the plumbing removed, there wouldn’t be an uproar.
The conflict between TERFS (trans exclusionary radical feminists) and transgenders is that most of these biologically intact men identify as female AND lesbian.
These men are overwhelmingly heterosexual. That’s part of the irony - most have normal sexual preferences but deny being men. End result - they’re demanding to be recognized as lesbians by lesbians. Lesbians, women who prefer women, are being bullied by other liberals and LBGTXYZ to have sex with mentally ill men. How dare you refuse to have sex with a fellow lesbian, you’re more privileged than him because you’re cis-gender!
Yes, liberals have gone to the insane extreme of sexual freedom - that you aren’t allowed to say no to a potential sexual partner.
The dream of the free-sex utopia is that everyone would be perfectly happy if only they had sex whenever they felt like it, with whomever they wanted. This breaks down, as your final sentence observes, the minute A wants to have sex with B, but B doesn’t want to have sex with A.
There’s a reason all utopias turn into totalitarian nightmares.
Unfortunately, far too many people of both sexes and various political persuasions aren’t willing to let go of the dream. “If only we try harder to pretend it’s working, it will!”
Trans are almost always men, because they are essentially shameless perverts willing to be seen as complete freaks in order to lust over naked and vulnerable women.
Female trans are not only rare, they’re not as big a deal. Nobody cares if there’s a female in the men’s bathroom. Nobody cares if a female wants to compete with men in sports. Nobody tends to mind if a female wants to expose her body in locker rooms to men.
The other way around on any of those questions and many others is not acceptable at all. So when we talk “trans” we can be very specific and talk about the males who are doing this.