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He should have stayed out of that bar , he knew he would see her there after he felt she was coming on to him.

I dated one of these women. I too spent months reading up on NPD. My NPDer I met on a dating website back in 2012, ONLY 2 months out of a divorce. I was real lonely and hadn't had any physical affection of a consistent sort in 7-10 years. I met L and to say she was a bombshell was an understatement. All 5'9" DD gorgeous. She did what the OP said, loved bombed me, modeled me, was careful to listen for my weak points. The honeymoon lasted about 6 months and it began with a fight, she screamed profanities at me and threw dish from the sink. I wrote it off as her being a passionate hothead. Well I went 3 years and over 15 rounds. I was hot mess back then and hot brunette who gave me (percieved)worth and lots of hot sex was worth the hassle. She was uber successful and lavished expensive vacations and gifts on me. When it was good it was good and when it was bad it was hell.

She gave me whatever I wanted in the bedroom(I mean whatever, threesomes, etc.) and when she was acting normal lavished praise on me. When I tried to correct somethings in the relationship by talking about them, she got angry beyond angry and then like the author, she was looking to phase me out. It got awful until I had enough. The breakup was horrible and vicious. Her sending me horrid text messages and insults about my manhood, how I was with my kids, my career. this continued into a year after our breakup. I was not quite right after that relationship. NPDers leave a toll psychologically on you. It stays with you. I can say after lots of therapy and being and loving myself I can say it got much better.

He should have stayed out of that bar , he knew he would see her there after he felt she was coming on to him.

That was my first thought as well. Why the hell did he go back. The subconscious mind is a powerful thing I guess.