I understand your pain. My son lives in Redwood City and his business is located in Mountain View. Most of his employees live in SF and commute to Mountain View. He and his wife have been solid Conservatives for ever, but their votes will never count.
Yes, “pain” is the correct word for it. The horrendous politics here were a major factor in us buying our second house in North Idaho. The traffic, sky high prices for everything, increasingly rude people which comes with congestion (and was never the case decades ago), and the feeling we somehow mysteriously moved in our sleep to Delhi or Beijing were also big factors.