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You've Got To Be Cruel To Be Kind
Original Content | 11/26/2018 | By Laz A. Mataz

Posted on 11/25/2018 9:48:50 PM PST by Lazamataz

There was a song, in the 1970's, titled "Cruel To Be Kind", performed by Nick Lowe. The lyrics, in part, read "You've gotta be cruel to be kind, in the right measure, cruel to be kind, it's a very fine line."

Recently, a relative and I happened to share a particular viewpoint about a particular issue, and I celebrated the agreement. Yet, she implied she wanted to understand me better, to understand why I hold the beliefs I do. I seek to be understood.

My spiritual life has drifted from Roman Catholicism, to an exploration of Judaism (my father coming from a Ukrainian Jewish heritage), then to New Age spiritualism, then to a generic form of Christianity. Here, in Christianity, I have found what I sought.

However, this essay is not focused on the spiritual, but more on the affairs of men. In this arena, my viewpoint is one of competitive capitalism and the favoring of willing struggle for our personal excellence and achievement.

Socialism in all its flavors, to include outright Communism, promises something it is dangerous to promise: Equality. While it seems, on its, surface a 'kinder, gentler way', it is not. The equality of results removes any goals, and kills any desire to excel. If a shoddy, poorly crafted brass ring is offered to you and every other person, why would you stretch to get the shinier, higher quality one? It turns out that competition and capitalism is the more benevolent approach.

When every individual seeks to better his financial and social position -- and, as in capitalism, when there is a point to do so! -- each person will develop his or her unique talents to offer something of value to others. The computer programmer will increase his skillset; the artist will improve his art; the tradesman will improve his craft. In contrast, the system of socialism (with the end result of one's work being the same, no matter what skill or diligence you bring to your occupation) there is no motivation to improve. There is no motivation to succeed.

It goes back to the thought-experiment of the Commons. If, say, there is a communal garden -- a Commons -- that everyone works and the harvest is split equally, the motivation of workers will be to put the least amount of work into the Commons, and still be assured of an equal share. Cut that Commons up into individual plots of land, each worked and each reaped individually, and watch as the harvest becomes bountiful.

So it is in our marketplace. We all need to compete, to offer something of value, something we uniquely bring. We sharpen our swords on other men's shields. Competition is healthy and causes us to grow.

There has been a tendency to remove competition from every arena of life. Children in sports are given 'participation trophies', for example, which teaches them that equal rewards are available, no matter the level of effort. This is an artificial, very detrimental construct. Artificial constructs are appearing everywhere. We now hear of '57 genders'. Absurd. You have the DNA of a man or a woman. Choose your sexual predilection, fine, but do not tell me that your gender is a Bi-Trans-Chicken-Pan-Wanker. It's not. It's male or female.

These artificial constructs have emerged as our society has become fat. With more wealth and ease, we have become weaker -- psychologically, physically, and spiritually. The emergence of many artificial constructs puts our race at odds with natural constructs -- the very ones that strengthen humanity.

Weakness of the very spirit of society has given rise to the Snowflake Generation. Now, today's young need 'safe spaces' and 'protection from triggering'. Ideologies are shouted down in colleges -- colleges! -- as unacceptable to even discuss. Colleges should be the very place that ideologies should be explored and put to the test.

Societies go through an ebb and flow: There are lean times, where people develop a strong work ethic and oftentimes an accompanying moral foundation. There are fat times, in which people become lazy and develop every manner of aberrant behavior. Rome saw that 'fat time', now it is ours.

Competitive capitalism will not save our society, but it will instill in us a form of strength. It propelled the United States to an unchallenged world dominance in technology and innovation. What appears, on its surface, to be cruel -- competition -- is actually kind.

Life often presents this conundrum. Mother Nature is a bitch. She is a tough-as-nails, unforgiving and relentless woman. She will kill you quickly and without remorse, if you make mistakes in the wild. Yet it is this very cruelty which turns out to be kind, because it forges a better person, a better species. I have seen this conundrum myself, in my personal affairs. What I thought I wanted would have killed me; what I thought was a tragedy turned out to be the best thing to ever happen to me.

Just like the song says, "You've gotta be cruel to be kind, in the right measure." Just as those lyrics state, in the arenas in which we have influence, we can measure the "kind cruelty". We can temper it with a little compassion. Competitive capitalism creates wealth, so we are able to afford to help those who simply cannot provide for themselves -- such as the truly disabled -- and to be able undertake efforts to mitigate the most toxic effects of pollution.


TOPICS: Chit/Chat; Weird Stuff
KEYWORDS: capitalism; crueltobekind; darwinism; existentialism
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21 posted on 11/25/2018 10:21:06 PM PST by Lazamataz (You know, when I advised Democrats to vote AFTER Nov 6th, I didn't think they'd actually DO it.)
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To: Karliner
So many danged werds, can’t you just text or make a meme with a pikture or something?


22 posted on 11/25/2018 10:23:05 PM PST by Lazamataz (You know, when I advised Democrats to vote AFTER Nov 6th, I didn't think they'd actually DO it.)
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To: Lazamataz
Nothing’s more cruel than communism, nor more bloody (by contrast, “Mother Nature” is not bloody nor cruel). When one “abolish(es) competition and replace(s) it with association” (as The Principles of Communism puts it), the spirit of invention is banished and the spirit of man is crushed.
23 posted on 11/25/2018 10:24:20 PM PST by Olog-hai ("No Republican, no matter how liberal, is going to woo a Democratic vote." -- Ronald Reagan, 1960)
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To: Lazamataz

Good stuff there, Laz!

BOOP!


24 posted on 11/25/2018 10:28:02 PM PST by luvie (The bravery and dedication of our troops in keeping us safe & free make me proud to be an American!)
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To: Lazamataz

Good read (maybe because I agree with you). :)


25 posted on 11/25/2018 10:28:18 PM PST by blondiegoodbadugly ( Winning! Thank you President Trump!)
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To: LUV W

“Bi-Trans-Chicken-Pan-Wanker”


26 posted on 11/25/2018 10:28:33 PM PST by Lazamataz (You know, when I advised Democrats to vote AFTER Nov 6th, I didn't think they'd actually DO it.)
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To: blondiegoodbadugly

It is impossible to disagree with plain truth. :)


27 posted on 11/25/2018 10:29:27 PM PST by Lazamataz (You know, when I advised Democrats to vote AFTER Nov 6th, I didn't think they'd actually DO it.)
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To: Lazamataz

*snork*


28 posted on 11/25/2018 10:31:29 PM PST by luvie (The bravery and dedication of our troops in keeping us safe & free make me proud to be an American!)
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To: Lazamataz
You may think that was cruel. But I am kind. I only ask that you...

Carry on.

29 posted on 11/25/2018 10:32:28 PM PST by real saxophonist (One side has guns and training. Other side's primary concern is 'gender identity'. Who's gonna win?)
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To: Lazamataz

I advised my dem friends to vote on Nov. 7th and got put in Facebook jail for 24 hours. JS........

And then they did it anyway. SMH.......<-—doncha love dots....


30 posted on 11/25/2018 10:33:41 PM PST by luvie (The bravery and dedication of our troops in keeping us safe & free make me proud to be an American!)
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To: Lazamataz

Oh I can’t take another heart ache...when I axk yew to be nice....


31 posted on 11/25/2018 10:46:36 PM PST by Karliner (Jeremiah29:11,Romans8:28 Isa 17, Damascus has fallen)
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To: Lazamataz

A commitment to work as a way of defining one’s value is a very American outlook that has helped us to obtain great wealth and influence for well over 200 years. There are some people who will adapt, flourish and experience joy in almost any situation, they may even inspire others, however barren, spartan or degrading their environment many appear to others. For most people, each new generation has to be taught or exposed to the benefits of doing a good job.

The importance of work or personal activity is not limited to paid employment. Many retired people continue to work each week, and almost for free. It’s not only about the paycheck. The incentive to keep active is often about wanting to feel needed and valued. The incentive is often about wanting a good reason to be with other people when we wish to. It fills up the day. It can helps us to remain good listeners, or to remain more articulate.

Many Sociologists are now toying with the concept of Basic Income for all. A guaranteed check each month whether you need it or not. Basic Income is going to be promoted heavily for the foreseeable future. The idea of money coming in without any individual effort is very tempting for many people. The danger is that with so many safety nets, and so little probable of material failure, most people will stop taking risks. Many innovative people I’ve met almost require a certain amount of tension to be present before they can really concentrate and pull their finest efforts out.
The next 30 years is likely to bring a dramatic change of what are seen as normal or usual expectations for anyone alive at that time. Robotics, Globalism, Capitolism and Theology will all play roles in how the world works.
This has always been the case, yes, but with the internet upon us now, everything has a way of happening very quickly.


32 posted on 11/25/2018 10:46:41 PM PST by lee martell (AT)
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To: Lazamataz

Yes indeed. When one tries to be better and do better to please God all benefit. There is no indication that that occurs when government gives one everything


33 posted on 11/25/2018 11:05:16 PM PST by Nifster (I see puppy dogs in the clouds)
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To: Lazamataz

Pretty apt and now I have the song in my head.

As an aside, the video is a hoot!


34 posted on 11/25/2018 11:15:36 PM PST by ozaukeemom (9/11/01 Never Forget. Never.)
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To: Lazamataz
Kindness
35 posted on 11/25/2018 11:27:09 PM PST by Berlin_Freeper
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To: Lazamataz

Leftists often expose themselves accidentally. Hunger Games. Harry Potter. Each portrays totalitarian leftists but hangs it on a stereotyped right-wing hook. Hypocrisy and projection are endemic to leftism.


36 posted on 11/25/2018 11:51:00 PM PST by YogicCowboy ("I am not entirely on anyone's side, because no one is entirely on mine." - J. R. R. Tolkien)
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To: Lazamataz
I read the text as well.

Spot on, but deep for 3AM 😴

And I never heard of that song!

Thanks for the ping.

37 posted on 11/25/2018 11:54:28 PM PST by Laslo Fripp (The Sybil of Free Republic)
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To: Lazamataz

Thanks for the ping. BTTT.


38 posted on 11/26/2018 12:10:31 AM PST by PA Engineer (Liberate America from the Occupation Media.)
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To: Lazamataz

Good thoughts, Laz.


39 posted on 11/26/2018 2:18:14 AM PST by Tax-chick (Ask me about my Marine!)
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To: Lazamataz

You’ve got to be gruel to be chyme.


40 posted on 11/26/2018 2:32:23 AM PST by HartleyMBaldwin
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