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You've Got To Be Cruel To Be Kind
Original Content | 11/26/2018 | By Laz A. Mataz

Posted on 11/25/2018 9:48:50 PM PST by Lazamataz

There was a song, in the 1970's, titled "Cruel To Be Kind", performed by Nick Lowe. The lyrics, in part, read "You've gotta be cruel to be kind, in the right measure, cruel to be kind, it's a very fine line."

Recently, a relative and I happened to share a particular viewpoint about a particular issue, and I celebrated the agreement. Yet, she implied she wanted to understand me better, to understand why I hold the beliefs I do. I seek to be understood.

My spiritual life has drifted from Roman Catholicism, to an exploration of Judaism (my father coming from a Ukrainian Jewish heritage), then to New Age spiritualism, then to a generic form of Christianity. Here, in Christianity, I have found what I sought.

However, this essay is not focused on the spiritual, but more on the affairs of men. In this arena, my viewpoint is one of competitive capitalism and the favoring of willing struggle for our personal excellence and achievement.

Socialism in all its flavors, to include outright Communism, promises something it is dangerous to promise: Equality. While it seems, on its, surface a 'kinder, gentler way', it is not. The equality of results removes any goals, and kills any desire to excel. If a shoddy, poorly crafted brass ring is offered to you and every other person, why would you stretch to get the shinier, higher quality one? It turns out that competition and capitalism is the more benevolent approach.

When every individual seeks to better his financial and social position -- and, as in capitalism, when there is a point to do so! -- each person will develop his or her unique talents to offer something of value to others. The computer programmer will increase his skillset; the artist will improve his art; the tradesman will improve his craft. In contrast, the system of socialism (with the end result of one's work being the same, no matter what skill or diligence you bring to your occupation) there is no motivation to improve. There is no motivation to succeed.

It goes back to the thought-experiment of the Commons. If, say, there is a communal garden -- a Commons -- that everyone works and the harvest is split equally, the motivation of workers will be to put the least amount of work into the Commons, and still be assured of an equal share. Cut that Commons up into individual plots of land, each worked and each reaped individually, and watch as the harvest becomes bountiful.

So it is in our marketplace. We all need to compete, to offer something of value, something we uniquely bring. We sharpen our swords on other men's shields. Competition is healthy and causes us to grow.

There has been a tendency to remove competition from every arena of life. Children in sports are given 'participation trophies', for example, which teaches them that equal rewards are available, no matter the level of effort. This is an artificial, very detrimental construct. Artificial constructs are appearing everywhere. We now hear of '57 genders'. Absurd. You have the DNA of a man or a woman. Choose your sexual predilection, fine, but do not tell me that your gender is a Bi-Trans-Chicken-Pan-Wanker. It's not. It's male or female.

These artificial constructs have emerged as our society has become fat. With more wealth and ease, we have become weaker -- psychologically, physically, and spiritually. The emergence of many artificial constructs puts our race at odds with natural constructs -- the very ones that strengthen humanity.

Weakness of the very spirit of society has given rise to the Snowflake Generation. Now, today's young need 'safe spaces' and 'protection from triggering'. Ideologies are shouted down in colleges -- colleges! -- as unacceptable to even discuss. Colleges should be the very place that ideologies should be explored and put to the test.

Societies go through an ebb and flow: There are lean times, where people develop a strong work ethic and oftentimes an accompanying moral foundation. There are fat times, in which people become lazy and develop every manner of aberrant behavior. Rome saw that 'fat time', now it is ours.

Competitive capitalism will not save our society, but it will instill in us a form of strength. It propelled the United States to an unchallenged world dominance in technology and innovation. What appears, on its surface, to be cruel -- competition -- is actually kind.

Life often presents this conundrum. Mother Nature is a bitch. She is a tough-as-nails, unforgiving and relentless woman. She will kill you quickly and without remorse, if you make mistakes in the wild. Yet it is this very cruelty which turns out to be kind, because it forges a better person, a better species. I have seen this conundrum myself, in my personal affairs. What I thought I wanted would have killed me; what I thought was a tragedy turned out to be the best thing to ever happen to me.

Just like the song says, "You've gotta be cruel to be kind, in the right measure." Just as those lyrics state, in the arenas in which we have influence, we can measure the "kind cruelty". We can temper it with a little compassion. Competitive capitalism creates wealth, so we are able to afford to help those who simply cannot provide for themselves -- such as the truly disabled -- and to be able undertake efforts to mitigate the most toxic effects of pollution.


TOPICS: Chit/Chat; Weird Stuff
KEYWORDS: capitalism; crueltobekind; darwinism; existentialism
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To: TADSLOS
Cruel to be Kind. This is what “Compassionate Conservatism” should be.

Indeed.

61 posted on 11/26/2018 5:19:57 AM PST by Lazamataz (You know, when I advised Democrats to vote AFTER Nov 6th, I didn't think they'd actually DO it.)
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To: Cletus.D.Yokel

Ha!


62 posted on 11/26/2018 5:21:37 AM PST by Lazamataz (You know, when I advised Democrats to vote AFTER Nov 6th, I didn't think they'd actually DO it.)
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To: Rusty0604; SueRae

Thanks!


63 posted on 11/26/2018 5:22:07 AM PST by Lazamataz (You know, when I advised Democrats to vote AFTER Nov 6th, I didn't think they'd actually DO it.)
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To: Lazamataz
I couldn't help but think, as I was reading, that as an elder (soon to be 71), I have reached a point where I am functionally useless.

The eyes don't see well, my ears ring and my hearing is bad on top of that, I drove truck and never excersized and my body has, for all practical purposes pretty nuch shut down and all I have left is an ability to think and type .... so I do.

Your essay prompted me to consider my reality which (in my most humble opinion) is wisdom.

I have nothing to offer humanity anything but what I think I think and why.

The glory of FR for these last many years has been (and still is) the impetus to consider what someone has written and if it sparks thought, to reply and perhaps expound on that prompt.

Your essay has prompted me to renew my opinion of myself and realize I still have worth, if for no other reason than the words God allows me to have and the freedom to speak them in Jim's living room.


In the words of "Ace" in West Side Story .... "Y'done good, buddy boy"

64 posted on 11/26/2018 5:30:29 AM PST by knarf (I say things that are true; I have no proof .... but they're true.)
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To: lee martell; Lazamataz

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I remember that song. It was sweet and bouncy. The Archies could have done it. A real toe tapper that is hard to stop hearing. Sort of like the infamous “Afternoon Delight<<

Laz!

You left out the best/most important lyric:

“BABY!!!!”

That is what makes the song bounce!

:)


65 posted on 11/26/2018 5:36:03 AM PST by freedumb2003 (As always IMHO)
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To: bagster

Re tradesman improving one’s craft..
As I struggle with Angular,I’ll see that as inspiration.


66 posted on 11/26/2018 5:48:08 AM PST by RitchieAprile (navies..something to do with ships..?)
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To: freedumb2003
OK, OK ... I didn't recognize the title, so I youtubed the song.

Never heard it before, but an interesting "take" in that, Laz developed an intelligent essay using it and THAT is what I meant by prompting thought in my reply above.

If I had known this song, I don't think my thoughts would have processed as Laz did ....

I love FR

67 posted on 11/26/2018 5:51:08 AM PST by knarf (I say things that are true; I have no proof .... but they're true.)
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To: knarf

I’m very glad you recognize you have value still. You do.


68 posted on 11/26/2018 6:05:58 AM PST by Lazamataz (You know, when I advised Democrats to vote AFTER Nov 6th, I didn't think they'd actually DO it.)
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To: Lazamataz

Well-written, Laz.
I hope you shared this post.


69 posted on 11/26/2018 6:09:28 AM PST by meyer (WWG1WGA, MAGA!)
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To: knarf

You realize it is like “The Theme from Gilligan’s Island” — it is an ear worm and will be in your head for the rest of the day.

Or your life, even.

BABYY!!!!

:) ;)


70 posted on 11/26/2018 6:10:52 AM PST by freedumb2003 (As always IMHO)
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To: meyer

Everywhere I could. I’d ask you to do the same. :)


71 posted on 11/26/2018 6:19:49 AM PST by Lazamataz (You know, when I advised Democrats to vote AFTER Nov 6th, I didn't think they'd actually DO it.)
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To: RitchieAprile

Angular is something I also need to pick up.

My field, computer development, is cruel to be kind.


72 posted on 11/26/2018 6:20:47 AM PST by Lazamataz (You know, when I advised Democrats to vote AFTER Nov 6th, I didn't think they'd actually DO it.)
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To: Lazamataz
Geez Laz ... all the OTHER guys got snarky replies .... WHY NOT ME !!!



(thanx ..... love ya', bro)

73 posted on 11/26/2018 6:21:10 AM PST by knarf (I say things that are true; I have no proof .... but they're true.)
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To: Lazamataz

Good article, Laz. Hoping that, within our lifetimes, we see somewhat of an ebb in the trend toward socialism in the USA. Thanks.


74 posted on 11/26/2018 6:28:37 AM PST by NEMDF
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To: knarf
OK, OK ... I didn't recognize the title, so I youtubed the song. Never heard it before, but an interesting "take" in that, Laz developed an intelligent essay using it and THAT is what I meant by prompting thought in my reply above. If I had known this song, I don't think my thoughts would have processed as Laz did ....

Wait, what?

Were you in a cave the entire 1970's?

Did you miss this one too? Ooga Chaga

75 posted on 11/26/2018 6:36:17 AM PST by Lazamataz (You know, when I advised Democrats to vote AFTER Nov 6th, I didn't think they'd actually DO it.)
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To: NEMDF

And don’t tell us that your gender is Pan-Queer-Disassociative-Trans-ChaiTeabagging-Gargleblaster.


76 posted on 11/26/2018 6:42:01 AM PST by Lazamataz (You know, when I advised Democrats to vote AFTER Nov 6th, I didn't think they'd actually DO it.)
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To: Lazamataz

OK. I have never had gender confusion or transition. I swear.


77 posted on 11/26/2018 7:31:11 AM PST by NEMDF
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To: NEMDF

Good. So you are not a Cis-Gender-Quantum-Bi-Neuter.


78 posted on 11/26/2018 7:34:14 AM PST by Lazamataz (You know, when I advised Democrats to vote AFTER Nov 6th, I didn't think they'd actually DO it.)
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To: Lazamataz

I am kind of slow. I do not even know what Cis-Gender-Quantum-Bi-Neuter is. So I do not think I am that, but cannot be sure.


79 posted on 11/26/2018 7:48:45 AM PST by NEMDF
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To: NEMDF
I am kind of slow. I do not even know what Cis-Gender-Quantum-Bi-Neuter is. So I do not think I am that, but cannot be sure.

Allow me to explain: If you apply a Quantum-field Fourier approximation to the Cis-Bi wave front, you can determine the probability of the Neutralization of Bi Tendencies, to include top- and bottom-spin. See this proof:


80 posted on 11/26/2018 7:58:07 AM PST by Lazamataz (You know, when I advised Democrats to vote AFTER Nov 6th, I didn't think they'd actually DO it.)
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