or take care of them yourself . my 93 year old gather in law lives with us and while exhausting i wouldn’t have it any other way. i know he is being cared for.
We did care for my grandmother at her home until she fell and had to be in a skilled care facility to recover.
She went home after the incident I spoke of.
Unfortunately, she did die in a nursing home after another fall. But in all she only spent a couple of months in a nursing home.
The simple fact is that nobody loves your loved ones as you do - and I’ve seen similar BS in hospitals as well. If someone isn’t accompanied at all times, or as much as possible, they are routinely ignored. There are huge financial and emotional impacts of providing the care yourself (if possible), but I’d sleep easier that way.
This abuse isn’t uncommon.