MEANWHILE, NOT EVERYTHING IS ROSY....
Meanwhile, older adults are actually becoming more likely to get divorced.
Among those 50 years of age or older, scholars have reported a rise in divorce from 1 in 10 in 1990 to nearly 1 in 4 in 2010. This trend is called “gray divorce.”
A report commissioned by the AARP offers insight into the nature and consequences of gray divorce. Women’s economic independence may help them opt out of these unhappy marriages.
Some older adults end their unhappy unions because they have grown apart. In her dissertation and forthcoming book, marriage and family therapist Crystal Hemesath defines falling out of romantic love as a lack of sexual attraction, emotional connectedness or sense of relationship togetherness.
Viagra probably
Men are sexually active or interested forever baring health issues and most women caring much much less for sex over 50 and many even earlier
Note I said most women...there are exceptions
My ex is 58 and in great shape and dates much younger men for this reason
She runs high octane desire wise she confides and I believe her
I’ve seen women here scorn ED drugs in general for this very reason
This is an ages old issue but it’s worse now with folks living longer and men with performance drugs available
A drug to help fit women past menopause have higher sex drives would be beneficial to couples with this issue
Quaaludes worked great for this...incredible really
Sex for women is so mental dependent and methaqualone really erased girls mental roadbloacks
Fembots and puritans hated this
Anyhow let it be known I am sympathetic to the pickle older women find themselves in today as a result of Viagra etc
But rather than shut men down let’s find something for girls
Hormones help...i can personally attest to this fact
But it’s a lot more than that
Or folks can just quit having sex
Romantic love defined by sexual attraction is easier in youth, I think.
For whatever their reasons, many “choose” to not age well via bad diet and lifestyle choices, especially when the difficult life stuff happens.
The beauty of youth is a gift from our Creator, but beauty later in life comes with a price that many would rather not pay.
On the other hand, romantic love defined by emotional connectedness is probably easier later in life, after we’ve grown up a bit and grow in our capacity for it.
But, relationship togetherness just is or it isn’t.
I think it’s based upon how we each choose to think/feel about and react to the other person’s 20% in that 80/20 ratio of the other person’s good stuff/bad stuff that is supposedly part and parcel to every and all marriage relationships.
Given how people can change with life and experiences, that 20% can change radically over a marriage!
The 20% might become so minor so as to “disappear”.
Or the 20% may “grow” to become the deadly “irreconcilable differences” that make continuing in the relationship impossible for the less mature or less motivate or less interested.
Not all can or should be married. Some just don’t have the capacity for it, where as some do, but never grow enough to develop it.