Part of good marriage philosophy is that the kids, as important as they are, will eventually leave the nest. So its most important to keep the spousal relationship alive and well, otherwise you wind up not having anything in common after the kids are gone.
Bring the kids into the world. Raise them right. Kick them out. Hope they remember you when we get old.
We are in the kick them out stage. Whoo Hooo.
Yes thats what I told my wife....in counseling she flat out said kids are top priority...and the counselor said nothing...I then new right then that counseling was worthless...But I know there is blame to go around...the kids, multiple cats, dog, and iphone get all the time..miserable situation