Yep. This describes the situation to a “T”.
The kinds of men they say they want....ie the “nerds” who got their degrees and built up their careers didn’t do all that work to end up with a woman who has none of her youth left and who they know doesn’t really want him. She’s just willing to settle for what she previously considered an unattractive schlub because now he has his career on track. There is nothing in it for him.
No wonder all these women will complain there’s a “shortage” of good men to marry. No there isn’t. You just played your cards exceptionally badly.
As a consultant I’ve learned this lesson in my career. Be VERY careful about turning down something that is good pursuing something that is great - particularly if that great opportunity is higher risk. You will probably not be able to circle back around and pick up food after great falls through. Then you get knocked down to average and have to hope you can get even that. When you’re offered something that’s good right now.....you should probably take it. It’s exactly the same in dating/relationships.
Not be able to circle back around and pick up good. Not “food”.
Damn autocorrect
Words to live by, for sure