Posted on 06/05/2023 1:28:54 PM PDT by DallasBiff
Dear Jane,
I left my husband four years ago when I met the new love of my life who I am now married to, but every day I realize what a terrible mistake I made, and I would do anything to turn back the clock.
I am not exactly unhappily married, but I know this isn't what marriage should be, and I am burning with regret over leaving my former husband, who was - I now know - the true great love of my life. He is with someone else now, and my current husband would be devastated if he knew how I felt, so I am carrying this alone.
Dear Regretful,
First of all, let me start by saying that I am sorry, truly, for the pain you are in. As a dyed-in-the-wool romantic, who grew up watching Hollywood movies and reading endless romance novels, the phrase that jumps out at me in your letter is this: 'I know this isn't what marriage should be.'
I have been thinking about our expectations around romance, and how horribly unprepared we are for the institution of marriage.
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The letter sounds like some fledgling drama student writing a short story, hoping it is turned into a movie (for the umpty third time).
“Mistakes were made.“
Dear regretful, it seems like you did your first husband a favor.
This Lady here messed up, but her ex has moved on.
So, she’s stuck where she is now. Is she planning to jump ship again, and abandon Husband #2? Don’t.
How can I put this..
IMO, some people are not ‘happy’ unless they’re unhappy.
Then, all their attention, all their passion is focused on some particular factor, thinking ‘My life would be perfect, if only I could .....!!”
She may just be jealous that some other woman has made her ex husband satisfied and content. That makes her aka Goldilocks look bad, in her twisted view.
Sounds like she is begging for a Do-over...maybe in another life.
Reminds me of the saying “Elections have consequences”. I guess love affairs do also.
The “Husband Store” wasn’t just a joke.
Monkey Branching
On the bright side, the ex-husband now has a balanced checking account, large retirement fund, and a Bebot from Mindanao.
CLICKBAIT for the lonely and bitter.
I thought Jane gave very good advice in this. The first husband is with someone else, now - there’s no going back. She’d just hurt the current husband too, and have 2 big mistakes behind her, along with further disappointment and more regret in the future.
Bury the regret and make the best of the bed you’ve made.
Hang in there. Dear Abby is still around and there’s one of these Sap Sisters in her column almost daily. I spot -check her stuff for people with actual problems but I’ve wasted a lot of time looking.
“Is she planning to jump ship again, and abandon Husband #2”
My bet is “yes”.
The more interesting question is whether she abandons Husband #3....
;-)
Or, maybe in another bed, is what she’s quietly thinking.
Bebot from Mindanao? Link? I’ll take two. Blonde and Redhead please.
Dying over here.
;-)
Taylor the Fiend would have fun with this.
Dear Regretful...Embrace the suck !
The AIs get more sophisticated all the time. Both the letter and the answer.
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