Sounds like my Mom. When she was 97 my oldest brother took her to the assisted living facility for the tour. When it was done she turned to my brother and said “I came, I saw, now take me back home”. She lived in her house until her last month when she died at 102.
Yeah—that is one of the keys to living to a ripe old age.
You have to have strong personal identity and integrity—and refused to get pushed around by anybody.
All the Blue Zones are tight knit communities and keep their family members at home as they age. But most of us don’t live in tight knit communities and family doesn’t live nearby. It’s overwhelming to care for parents with chronic health problems. It often falls to one child, and it’s impossible for one person to handle nurse, med tech, food, laundry, home maintenance, transportation, medical appointments, medicine, and financial duties without completely giving up their own life. My dad has dementia and my mom can no longer handle taking care of him. She also has physical and congnitive decline, so all of the above fall on me for both of them. Sometimes there is no choice but assisted living whether they want to move or not.