As I documented in Post 65, I would not have that particular problem in Iowa because Iowa is one of the 37 states that specifically bans the recognition of out-state same-sex marriages.
STATES THAT PREVENT RECOGNITION OF OUT-OF-STATE SAME-SEX MARRIAGE LICENSE
If I lived in Massachusetts, I would have that particular problem. However, I would blame nobody but myself for being stupid enough to want to live in such a state.
I currently live in Washington State. Liberal as it is, Washington State is one of those states that specifically bans the recognition of out-state same-sex marriages.