Can someone PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE make my ex-girlfriend read this!!!!!
So do you sometimes get the phones calls from her that go something like this
"Why don't you call anymore? You said when were going out that you'd stay in touch."
"Um, you're married."
Not that I've ever had phone class like that ...
you need to be very clear to her about boundaries. She does not want to hear about your new car when she wont be riding shotgun. She cannot clean your room, call you incessantly and you tolerate because you "don't want to be mean."
Explain that the relationship has ended and she needs to move on with her life without you. Invitations to hang out shall end. Casual dates will end. Phone calls will go into voicemail.
Allow her dignity. Unfortunately, relationships bring pain. And she will need to experience pain that you cannot take away. But she will grow and learn and move on in her own time.
This is from your mother, who many posted gave common sense they ignored when young.
Love ya dear.