A co-worker of mine was assaulted while in the military, and was told, "move on, it didn't happen." (the clinton response). It is real, and they need to deal with it.
Don't ask, don't tell, was supposed to keep all sexual problems out of the military. Now the victims of the assaults are telling, with no one asking. It could possibly be that the military is better suited to the male culture and not as well suited to the feminine side. I don't recall that the Roman Legions were composed of mixed couples and they were some of the more successful warriors of their day.