[speed_addiction]

Please reconsider - your daughter is married and your son-in-law is working. All work is honorable. Consider if he were selling drugs, robbing old ladies - or killing for fun and finance.

I appreciate the value of work. What pisses me off about this guy is he lack of ambition. He is already out of school. There are plenty of jobs here. Good paying (but labor intensive) oil field jobs. He refuses to try to do better. He likes the 30 hours a week because it gives him plenty of time to hang out with friends.

I see my grandson. I provide clothes and diapers but that is it. Nothing that can in anyway benefit this asshole comes out of my pocket.

My oldest daughter (though half deaf and half blinded in Iraq) shows more drive than this guy. She has absolutely refused to let her recently aquired disability stand in her way.

[SuzyQue]

Wow, you've got a lot on your plate. Prayers from Texas. And, many, many thanks to your daughter. My brother is coming home from Iraq this week, thank God.

[cake_crumb]

I remember you mentioning your daughter once before. I've been wondering how she's doing. Sounds like she's got the will and the drive to overcome.

As for your other daughter...those clothes and diapers for your grandson are the most important things you can give. I don't know what relationship you have with her, but she's probably very grateful that her son is getting the things he needs.

As for your SIL...well, maybe prayer will help. It can't hurt. Maybe they'll both straighten up.