I do both.
I would never trade the first 22 of my life growing up there for anything in the world.......but there is absolutely no way on earth I want my 6yo daughter to grow up there. And there is no way I could imagine going back to that way of life.
When we decided it was time to move out of Dover, DE we actually could have gone anywhere because of the company my husband works for. We chose to stay in the same "territory" he was already in because he likes his coworkers and neither of us were interested in "big city."
Yup, this "big city" gal is perfectly content living in the middle of nowhere, with 150,000 chickens as my nearest neighbors in rural Virginia.....unlike my friends in Delaware, where I spent most of my adult life, or my friends in NYC where I grew up, I can have a cigarette with my coffee or beer when I go out.
And on that note - I take a temporary leave to run some errands......FReep at you in a bit.
And the same with me before we moved up here. This is the smallest laid back community I have ever lived in my entire life. But it grew on me.
The only down fall in Maine is the anti smokers. They finished the state off with their total ban.